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T is for Two Minus One: #atozchallenge Day 20

Two Minus One

Two we became on an April night

Two we were becoming for weeks before

Before we were married or even lovers

Before all the things that would follow

Follow the trails of canyon and conversation

Follow our hearts into unexpected love

Love that filled long desert nights like stars

Love growing and shifting as we descended

Descended through layers of one another’s love

Descended the trail that wound through history

History building as we hiked through rocky lands

History flowing like the turquoise waters awaiting

Awaiting our future as magical as ferny grottoes

Awaiting possibilities as clear as the night skies above

Above far above was the canyon’s unseen rim

Above us space sprawled in all its glorious wonder

Wonder how many stars in that sky

Wonder what would become of he and I

I never suspected on that desert engagement night

I would be writing this poem as I sit here alone

Alone without the man I still love

Alone in a marriage now minus one

One love bound us together on a May day

One love grew into three children

Children who minus one grew strong and sure

Children who minus one carry our genes combined

Combined into people unique as those desert stars

Combined in their own expressions of a love shared

Shared joys at their lives shared sorrow at their brother’s death

Shared laughter in abundance and shared tears in salty seasoning

Seasoning of a love throughout a year, then five then ten

Seasoning through a second decade then sprinkled through

Through the months of year twenty-one till we got

Through four and then weeks then days

Days that slipped and rushed by in a hurry

Days that stopped with his breath and his heart

Heart broken now as I learn to live as a solitary whole

Heart that feels as though it’s lost its other half

Half of a pair now left to stand on my own

Half of my soul tangled still in all that we were as two

Two beings who chose to commit to life as one

Two hearts two souls bound by so many choices

Choices made in honor of what we shared

Choices that shrank as that cancer grew

Grew without ceasing as once had our love

Grew to choke out his choices and his life

Life after a marriage ended by death

Life where I must gather myself and reinvent

Reinvent

Death

 

Jim and I had an unlikely union from the very start. A woman from upstate New York, and a man from the Willamette Valley in central Oregon, who met at Moqui Lodge, a mere mile from the edge of the Grand Canyon.

At first, we didn’t like one another very much. But, one night I treated myself to an extremely overpriced six pack of Guinness (shipping stuff up to the Canyon isn’t cheap!) – and only after the store was closed did I realize that I didn’t have a bottle opener. I went to the common employee areas looking for someone willing to loan me one.

Jim was that someone. He went back to his place to find one – he no longer drank – and, when he brought it over, we talked for four hours.

Less than six months later, we were married. And stayed that way until he died last January, a little over 20 years later.

In many ways, I grew up in this marriage. I was barely 28 when we married. I’m 48 now, and the mother of three children – two thriving teens so close to grown it sometimes blows my mind, and a secondborn son who was profoundly brain injured at birth and died at 12 days old, having spent his entire life in the NICU, most of it in a coma. We became homeowners, and I became voluntarily estranged from my abusive parents.

And now….?

Now, I reimagine my life as a widow – a word that still feels foreign to me. I’ve adopted a dog, and changed my bed, and my bedroom. I’ve removed Jim’s name from our formerly joint accounts, and am contemplating selling and giving away some of his possessions. It will be up to me to replace our leaky roof, and tend to everything else about our older home in need of repairs.

Life goes on, and I’m still here. I need to adjust, reinvent, seek new kinds of joy, and acquire new skills.

I need to know who I am when one half of my marriage is subtracted…

Join us tomorrow, when we explore unfinished business.

Need some totally terrific T posts?

 

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Settling Into the Now:  #ROW80 Round 2 /#12WeekYear 3 MidWeek 2

Hi there, ROWers and friends! 

It’s Wednesday – time to list out my Week 2 Action Plan, and current progress (Here’s my Week 1 progress). 

These goals are more specific than my Week 1 goals. I’ve refined things; made them more measurable and specific. Some of these may take a few weeks to complete, so they’ll be here a while.

And that’s okay.

I’m reminding myself of something I’d lost sight of for a while. NOW is the only time I have, no matter how much I might wish it was otherwise.

What are you doing with your now?

Notes:

  • I post my Weekly Action Plan on Wednesdays, and Weekly Wrap-Ups on Sundays.
  • I review/adjust my Round 2/12 Week Year 3 after weeks 3, 6, 9, and a final one after Week 12.

Goal Status:

  • Blue with Overstrike: Completed.
  • Green: In Progress.
  • Black: Still Waiting.
  • Black with Overstrike: 86’ed.
  • Red: Goal Change.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Family Stuff:

I facilitate Miah’s driving at a pace that’s comfortable for him.

I facilitate kids’ social travel and time with friends as desired, and check up on Unschoolers Rock the Campground.

  • Nothing posted for URTC yet.

I spend 11:11 gathering materials for each child’s third quarter homeschool reports.

I facilitate both kids’ learning as needed.

  • Lise checked the weather around the world, with some suggestions from me. We discussed climate and geographic features which influence weather.

Home Stuff:

I facilitate home and yardtending, asking for assistance as needed.

  • Made a deal with Lise – a sinkful of dishes traded for an order of fries.
  • Bedrooomtending; laundry; dishes; yardtending (raking leaves; decluttering).

I post three items (already selected) on a local yard sale site.

  • I’ve taken photos for these posts.

I rough draft a schedule for hometending as a baseline for action.

I touch base with Lise about next steps in baking/selecting a mop she wants to use.

  • She’s comfortable with prepackaged cookie dough for now, but may want to experiment with mixes soon.
  • We agreed that I will find a few potential mopping solutions for her to choose from.

Relationship Stuff:

I schedule lunch/coffee dates with two friends.

  • Tentative plans to meet Eden Mabee (best friend since almost forever; we were little, little girls!) on Wednesday.

I send thank you notes to Jim’s sisters, and contact them via text to touch base.

Professional/Financial:

Writing/Revising Stuff:

I complete the first revision pass of “Storm at Song Glass Cabin” (short story), and return to publishers.

I collect materials, organize, get beta feedback, apply, finalize layout, and submit my Secret Project.

  • I have my base materials, and have secured 3 beta readers (3 more to ask).

I use April CampNaNoWriMo to complete the rough draft of Still Nameless (Kifo Island #8).

  • 18,277 new words; 5,668 this week.

Blogging From A-Z April Challenge: The Alphabet of Grief complete 26 posts.

I check in at Story A Day, catch up on recent podcasts, and begin collecting story sparks for this year’s stories. If there is a way to get advance notice of the prompts, I utilize it.

  • Made a quick survey; selected some follow-up items.

Learning Stuff:

I complete Pixels to Platform, and complete Module 1.

  • Began intro video rewatch: 30%.

I complete organization for How to Write Flash Fiction That Doesn’t Suck, evaluate my current progress, and complete one 11:11 learning session this week.

  • Organization 95% complete; evaluation 50%

I complete organization for How to Revise Your Novel.

Networking Stuff:

I serve as an DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform Master Class Ambassador.

  • Checked in regularly with private Facebook group; class is now live.

I answer blog comments and visit other blogs on my current informal schedule.

  • Several #atozchallenge visits. #babysteps.

I complete current chapter of Stained Blood, return to author, and highlight next section for revision.

I touch base with author next in my queue, and another possible beta author regarding manuscript schedule.

I post current goals and Dark and Bitter reading video/transcript to Patreon, and update Facebook Writer page and blog sidebar.

Family Financial Stuff:

I go through current receipts.

I set budget for groceries, eating out, and monthly expenses, using receipts and bank statement as guides.

I contact insurance agent (re: business insurance).

I read at least one article or blogpost on a financial matter.

I talk with both kids about what prosperity means to them.

  • Opened a discussion with Lise. It was enlightening, and showed how she’s matured in the last several months.

Body, Mind, and Soul:

I return to tai chi on Thursday, and swim afterwards.

I reset my 5K training; prepare to restart next week.

I make chicken and rice soup; steel cut oats; a pasta bake; and steam sweet potatoes in Instant Pot.

  • Bone broth for soup and steel cut oats.

I meditate and journal daily, and twice daily at least three times this week.

  • Meditation (Insight Timer at 2:22) and journaling each morning; extra journaling Sunday night (1/3).

I read at least one spiritual growth article this week.

  • Read Strip Away Stress and How to be Kind in a Rude World from the Real Simple Find Your Balance special issue.

I allow myself sufficient time for rest, recreation, and reflection, without guilt.

  • Rest was rocky until Tuesday, but others are solid. Coloring, meditation, journaling, and pondering in abundance.

I share my experiences with others as I am inspired.

  • Through blogging, and in person.

I create art that allows me to explore and express my emotional state.

  • Singing, writing, and coloring

I memorialize Jim’s place in my life, and makes changes as I am moved to, without guilt.

  • Through writing, and in life.

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

Just a bit of now-themed silliness! =D

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Trip, Stumble,and Fall? #ROW80 /#12WeekYear MidWeek 7

Hi there, ROWers and friends!

On Sunday, I wrote about giant strides – stepping off into another element.

Here’s the thing:

Like any other form of growth, it’s not always a smooth and graceful transition.

This week has been filled with tripping and stumbling, but, thus far, no serioous falls.  Just like a baby has to fall sometimes to master the controlled falling that is walking, I apparently need to bang my shins and skin my knees a little as I learn the steps to this new dance.

I think I’m stumbling over my metaphors, too…

What’s tripping you up, lately?

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 10%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Weeks 712.

  • Tuesday – locally, some with computer monitors in the cargo area, and two patio gliders lashed to the roof! Also, effectively used Google Maps to navigate. 1/4.
  • Progress: 25%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with both kids. Weeks 7-12.

  • Though I made this goal, there’s been some friction this week – I think it’s due to passing the one-month mark, pursuing some difficult goals, and a degree of overwhelm and fatigue that are likely hormonal.
  • Considering ways to alleviate the stressors.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 712.

  • Shopping, including yard sale site pickups and monitors for our desktops, arriving next week. Some hometending; administration; personal enrichment. 3/5.
  • Progress: 70%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 7-12.

  • Yes, each day this session. 3/3.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 7-12.

  • More discussion/brainstorming for short/mid/long term; and enacting them.
  • Progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Progress: 85%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Progress: 85%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business. Due Week 6.

  • Progress: 35%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • Progress: 25% 

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • More consideration of our budgetary needs.
  • Progress: 50%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 7-12.

  • Completed Story Start 10/10; rough draft and first revision of Story Middle 1/5.
  • Progress: 50%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 712.

  • Completed Chapter 8, Scene 1
  • Progress: 100%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 712.

  • Monday sprint and conversation with my Twitter and local NaNoWriMo group, including a visit with a writing friend.
  • Progress: 100%.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 712.

  • Progress: 50%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 7-12.

  • Lise wants her friend to accompany us to an unschooling conference we’ll be attending this summer; began arrangements.
  • Progress: 50%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 712.

  • Lunch/coffee dates in the not-distant future.
  • Will be speaking at the conference this summer; asked for help from a friend who has spoken at previous conferences.
  • Progress: 100%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 712.

  • I’ve got a couple of very organizationally oriented friends helping me out here and there – it’s good for now.
  • Progress: 100%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 7-12.

  • When offered a scholarship to the conference, I offered to speak instead – because I feel I need the chance to help others more.
  • Progress: 100%.

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Weeks 7-12.

  • Every night this session. We’ve come to the unofficial end of the series (the actual end is a poorly-written travesty I won’t be watching). I’ve also reread a fan fiction project in progress, in preparation for returning to it.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arise. Weeks 7-12.

  • More Home and Garden TV; decluttering/organizing/hometending; assisting Miah with assembling my L-shaped work station; singing; and fan fiction reading.
  • Progress: 100%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 7-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 712.

  • Progress: 0%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 7-12.

  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 7-12.

  • Still doing well with this one.
  • Progress: 100%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 712.

  • Stumbled a bit on this one.
  • Progress: 60%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 712.

  • Progress: 0%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 7-12.

  • Lots of renewal/planning/execution time.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 712.

  • Fell down on this one, too, as I pushed myself to overwhelm territory.
  • Progress: 30%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 712.

  • Another weak area as busy-ness took precedence.
  • Progress: 85%

ROW80

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

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Finding My Pace:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear EOW 5

Hi there, ROWers and friends! 

January is over, which means I’ve entered my first full month of being a widow – a word I’m still having some trouble attaching to myself or my situation, no matter how accurate it is.

Some things are easier now. I’ve made headway on the administrative tasks, for instance, and gained confidence along the way. The kids and I are settling into a new rhythm, learning as we go, and doing our best to be patient with one another.

Other things, though, stymie me. The odd moments when I’m compelled to run something by Jim the way I used to. The quiet spaces that his sense of humor and his laughter would fill so well. The place in our bed that doesn’t hold his warm solid presence anymore.

It was predawn when I wrote this, and the wind was blowing hard against the house. It’s a time I would have snuggled against Jim, and felt safer. Now, several hours later, I’m sipping coffee and settling into the rhythm of a new day. I’m watching Property Brothers to add voices – Jim and I used to have coffee and conversation together.

I’m finding my pace, but I still miss the man who walked beside me for over 20 years.

Know what I mean?

But now, on to the update…

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress. 

Black: Still Waiting.

Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Weeks 5-12.

  • 3/4 –local driving.
  • Progress: 75%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members. Weeks 5-12.

  • Connection with both kids; contacted one of Jim’s sisters.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 5-12.

  • Planned 3 weeks of Plated orders; picked up reclining loveseat for kids’ game room; plans for updated personal/common spaces/wardrobes: groceries and kindling-wood.
  • 7/7 for this session.
  • Progress: 100%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 5-12.

  • While hometending; making food; moving furniture; and just chatting.
  • 7/7 for this session.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 5-12.

  • Lots more discussion/brainstorming, and planning.
  • Progress: 100 %


Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Actual progress! Went through 26 cases; sorted by flavor and whether labeled.
  • Progress: 75%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Progress: 80%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business. Due Week 6.

  • Progress: 30%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • Progress: 20%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Progress: 50%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 5-12.

  • Completed final revision for Story Start 5/11; draft and revision 1 for Story Start 6/11.
  • Progress: 30%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 512.

  • Stained Blood Chapter 6/24. Commented and returned to author.
  • Progress: 100%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 512.

  • Sprinted Wednesday; skipped Thursday and Friday; 3/5. Read a couple of blogs and commented.
  • Progress: 40%.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 512.

  • Progress: 25%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 5-12.

  • Happening organically.
  • Progress: 100%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 512.

  • This is tapering off some, as we find or footing and others focus on their own lives.
  • Progress: 45%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 5-12.

  • I think I am going to become that person myself, with prompting and help from others who enjoy helping.
  • Progress: 50%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 5-12.

  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Weeks 5-12.

  • Every night this session.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arise. Weeks 5-12.

  • More Home and Garden TV; decluttering/organizing/hometending/for challenge and otherwise; singing; and reading.
  • Progress: 100%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 5-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 5-12.

  • Progress: 100%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 5-12.

  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 5-12.

  • My body and mind seem determined to be sure I meet this goal consistently.
  • Progress: 100%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 512.

  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 512.

  • My morning routine has shifted to focus on connecting with Lise, then seemingly away from that.
  • Progress: 75%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 5-12.

  • I use these as my renewal/planning time.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 5-12.

  • I continue to focus on this.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 512.

  • Spent time with both kids, just being, as well as tending to their needs.
  • Progress: 100%

ROW80

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

I know this isn’t exactly on topic for this post, but it’s light and fun, and you can walk to it!

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Reshaping My Foundations: #12WeekYear/#ROW80 Week 3 Final Update

Hey there! 

It’s time again for my 12 Week Year 1 End of Week 3//ROW80 Round 4 Update. It’s been a productive week, but, one-quarter of the way into my first “year”, I can see that what I suspected at the outset is true – I have too many goals.

Not as many too many as I’ve often had in the past, but my reach is just slightly too far ahead of my grasp. I’m focused, but I seem to be falling a bit short each week, which is a clear sign that I need to dial things back a bit for Year Two.

Of course, that’s still 9 weeks away. So, I’m going to take this week to go through my Year One goals, and lighten them up a little. The point, after all, is to learn to set goals that are a challenge, but are also attainable. If I can’t make the goal with genuine focused effort…the goal needs to shift a bit.

The beauty is that there will be another “year” after this one – and then another, and another, and another. I can grow incrementally, and, even if it’s not as fast as I might prefer, I am doing better than I was when my goals extended over a 52 Week Year rather than a 12 Week Year, which gives me a lot more opportunity to adjust things.

I’ve decided I’m going to do this every quarter-“year.” That way, I won’t start floundering, and lose my momentum because my goals are just a bit too much. And, if I’ve set my bar too low, I can add a bit.

Do you  adjust your goals periodically, or stay the course once you’ve set them?

Week 3 Action Plan Final:

  • Blue, with overstrike: COMPLETED!

  • Green: In Progress.

  • Black: Not Yet Begun

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Complete three chapters Spellfire; one Stained. Weeks: 34.

  • Spellfire: Chapter Eight; 3/3; page 16/24 in progress.
  • Stained: No progress.
  • Week 3 progress: About 70%.

Complete five hometending rounds on porch; three in study; and one in bedroom: Week 3.

  • 5/5 porch; 3/3 study.
  • Week 3 action COMPLETED!

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice twice weekly: Week-3.

  • Replaced my lost license, so I can legally take him out; and discussed with him.
  • Night driving early Friday morning and late evening; 2/2 complete.
  • Week 3 action COMPLETED!

Professional/Financial:

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

Complete Modules One and Two; watch first video for Module Three: Week 3.

  • Module One: reread transcript for Video Two; completed Play Sheet 1/3.  Read through Sheets 2 and 3; they will be done over time.
  • Week 3 progress: about 30%

Slaying SEO:

Begin class: Week 3.

  • Course began Saturday; read first offerings on group page; simmering.
  • Week 3 action COMPLETED!

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete three hours of lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night.Weeks 3-12.

  • 3/3 hours completed. Lesson 6/22 Character Sharpening: All materials read and printed; early progress: p 1/82, line 10-11 in progress.
  • Week 3 action COMPLETED!

New Writing:

Solemates:

Complete The Story Toolkit Planning elements through Supporting Characters (Step 7/22): Week 3.

  • Section 2/22 (Worldbuilding) completed. Detouring into Main Character Development from The Writers’ Coloring Book before going back to these; completed 5 Personality Worksheets.
  • Week 3 progress: about 30%

OctPoWriMo 2017:

Complete poems 15-21. Week 3. 

  • 21/31 completed.
  • Week 3 action COMPLETED!

Chef Bluebeard: 

Maintain/adapt media schedule: Week 3-12.

  • Spent about 2 hours on website development.
  • Off target; did nothing for this Tues, Wed, Fri, or Saturday. Still adjusting to new schedule; it’s not habit yet.
  • Week 3 progress: about 45%

Contact three venues and three stores for sales. Week 3.

  • Emailed 1/3 stores and 1/3 venues; heard back from venue contact; will speak again after January 1. She’s an event coordinator, and might really help to fill out our 2018 schedule.
  • Week 3 progress: About 33%

Health, Fitness, and Spirituality:

Samsung Health:

Complete 5K Week 10: Week 37

  • 32 min. Makeup workout from Monday, October 16: 5 min. warmup; 4 min jogging at 4.66mph; 1 min walking at 3.1 mph; 8 jogging; 4 walking; 4 jogging; 1 walking; 5 min. cooldown. Jogged 100% first interval; about 50% of intervals 2 and 3. First time with these intervals.
  • 31 min. Makeup workout from Wednesday, October 18: 5 min. warmup; 8 min jogging at 4.7mph; 2 min walking at 3.1 mph; 8 jogging; 2 walking; 5 min. cooldown. Jogged 100% first interval; about 66% of interval. Longest continuous interval to date.
  • Still 1 workout behind schedule (will be caught up after Sunday‘s run; doing 2 days on, 1 off till caught up.
  • Week 3 action COMPLETED!

Tai chi, yoga, reiki:

Tai chi: Attend class twice weekly; either Monday evening, or Tuesday and/or Thursday afternoons: Weeks 1-12.

  • Took Thursday off due to fatigue from catching up workouts, and needing to take care of some personal business.
  • Week 3 progress: 0%

Cook and eat vegetable based meals.

Cook two vegetable based meals; Wednesday/Friday: Weeks 3-5.

  • Week 3 progress: 0%

Personal Expression:

Purchase three new bras.

Send back Torrid bra; research through HerRoom/Cacique; order 1: Week 3.

New bras are here. Not thrilled with the Just My Size (fits, but very low quality; you get what you pay for). LOVE the Goddess sports bra…LOVE! Supportive, comfortable, and even pretty-ish! That’s a lot for a large-size working bra!

  • I’ll close out this goal as soon as I’ve sent the Torrid bra back from whence it came.
  • Week 3 progress: 90%

Assess jewelry; purchase new pieces as they speak to me.

Go through rest of the jewelry I already have; save and/or discard as I choose: Week 1- 3.

  • Week 3 progress: 0%

Evaluate  wardrobe as the season changes.

Research snow and driving gloves online: Week 2-4.

  • Week 3 progress: 50%

 

 

 

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Shaky Foundations: #12WeekYear/#ROW80 Week 3 Midweek Update

  

This week, I’m pondering my foundations – in writing goals, and in life.

#MeToo  has been extremely active this week. Women around the world are speaking out about their of sexual subjugation by men –unwanted advances, harassment, inequality, presumption, drugging, abuse, assault, rape…it’s different in each case, but it comes down to this:

Our society, our culture, and all too often the men in our lives, treat women as existing more for men’s pleasure and purposes than anything else. Most women are groomed from childhood to do the pleasing and serve the purposes men set forth for us.

We’ve learned the lesson well. Most women are adept at tending to the needs of others. As for our own needs, hopes, and dreams – often, they’re subverted in the process. Think of the Invisible But Indispensible Mother – “women’s work’ tends to be the thankless and endless tasks that add grace notes to life that are often taken for granted.

I’ve got #metoo stories. The more I step into my own strength and my own life, the more little flashes I have of times men have used me for their own purposes without regard for the fact that I have purposes of my own, beyond them. I’m not bitter about this – I really like men, and guys are often built on a shaky foundation that allowed them to see this behavior as natural, not domineering.

I need to tend to those cracks and bows, so I can build a life that will stand strong.

 And I’m not sure how to do that.

 Do you feel a shakiness in your foundation?

 How will you address it?

I want better for this girl – and for women everywhere. Lise Burton, self-portrait at almost 13, early July, 2017. Photo by Annalise S. Burton

Week 3 Action Plan Progress:

  • Blue with Overstrike: COMPLETED!

  • Green: In Progress.

  • Black: Not Yet Begun

  • Note: I’m not posting my final September update. It was a decent month, but life has moved on, and so will I. =)

 

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Beta Reading: Complete three chapters Spellfire; one Stained. Weeks: 3-4

  • Spellfire: Highlighted Chapter Six for comments – it’s 30 pages, so will likely take a while; page 16/30 in progress.
  • Stained: No progress.
  • Week 3 progress: About 25%.

Complete five hometending rounds on porch; three in study; and one in bedroom: Week 3.

  • 4/5 porch rounds; 1/1 bedroom.
  • Week 3 progress: About 75%

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice twice weekly: Weeks 1-3.

  • Week 3 progress: 0%

Professional/Financial:

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

Complete Modules One and Two; watch first video for Module Three: Week 3.

  • Week 3 progress: 0%

Slaying SEO Class:

Begin course: Week 3.

  • Course begins on Saturday.
  • Week 3 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete three hours of lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night.” Weeks 3-12.

  • 1 hour; 45 min/3 hours,and Lesson 5/22 completed!
  • Week 3 progress: about 60%

New Writing:

Solemates:

Complete Planning elements through Supporting Characters (Step 7/22): Week 3.

  • Section 2/22 (Worldbuilding) in progress – finishing up Where, with lots of ideas simmering. Who and What left to address.
  • Week 3 progress: about 15%

OctPoWriMo 2017:

Complete poems 15-21. Week 3.

  • 17/31 completed.
  • Week 3 progress: about 45%

Chef Bluebeard:

Maintain/adapt media schedule: Week 3-12.

  • Sunday: all but one task completed; evaluating that one. May need to adapt.
  • Monday: addressed all; expanded one; a bit short on posting.
  • Tuesday: Day Off (need to add to the schedule that every week will have one; I am quite a slave driver of myself!).
  • Week 3 progress: about 33%

Contact three venues and three stores for sales. Week 3.

  • Emailed 1/3 stores for the week.
  • Drafted email for 1/3 venues.
  • Week 3 progress: About 25%

 

Health, Fitness, and Spirituality:

Samsung Health:

Complete 5K Week 10: Week 37

  • Makeup for Wednesday, October 11: Did much better with jogging portions (4 min; 6 min; 6 min, with 2 minute walking intervals between) than last session.
  • Makeup for Friday, October 13: Did all jogging intervals except one incline, and a point where a propane truck needed to back into the driveway I was abreast of . Can’t say it was exactly easy – but it clearly wasn’t impossible, either!
  • Still 2 workouts behind schedule (will be caught up after Sunday‘s run; doing 2 days on, 1 off till caught up.
  • Week 3 progress: 50%

Tai chi, yoga, reiki:

Tai chi: Attend class twice weekly; either Monday evening, or Tuesday and/or Thursday afternoons: Weeks 1-12.

  • With the extra workouts, and only 3.5 hours sleep due to looking for some fan fiction stories I knew I wrote but couldn’t find (until I did a little after 7am), I wasn’t up to a trip away from home. I’m learning to listen to my body a little better, so I stayed home except for my 5k training run
  • Week 3 progress: 0%

Cook and eat vegetable based meals.

Cook two vegetable based meals; Wednesday/Friday: Weeks 3-5.

  • Not scheduled for this session.
  • Week 3 progress: 0%

 

Personal Expression:

Purchase three new bras.

Send back Torrid bra; research through HerRoom/Cacique; order 1: Week 3.

  • Went to HerRoom.com, and found they made it EASY to know what I’m getting! No more underwire booby traps (pun absolutely intended)! I ordered a daily use and a sports bra (YES! I didn’t think they even made those in my side, and now I’ll have one for running and workouts!). 3/3 purchased, a bit early!
  • I’ll close out this goal as soon as I’ve sent the Torrid bra back from whence it came.
  • Week 3 progress: 75%

Assess jewelry; purchase new pieces as they speak to me.

Go through rest of the jewelry I already have; save and/or discard as I choose: Week 1- 3.

  • Week 3 progress: 0%

Evaluate wardrobe as the season changes.

Research snow and driving gloves online: Weeks 3-4.

  • No need to research driving gloves; I found my existing pair in the dryer. Bought them last winter, and forgot about them. But they worked very well, and are still in excellent condition.
  • Week 3 progress: 50%

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First Blocks in the Foundation: #ROW80 October 4, 2017

The first update of every round comes quickly; but, this time, I feel like I’ve got more than random progress to report – and the update is a whole lot simpler than those I’ve done previously.

Why is that?

All right, I know I asked the question just to be able to answer it – but this might help more folks than just me, so here we go:

This round, my first with The 12-Week Year, involves not just setting goals, but creating weekly action plans that support and move me toward the completion of those plans. So, throughout the week, I need only schedule the action steps, then execute.

Of course, there’s a bit more to it than that…but I’m still working my way through the learning process – and this is as far as I’ve gotten, right now…I’m planning to move further along after I sleep, and, in a week or two, to have fine-tuned the entire process.

Until then, though – my first-ever 12 Week Year/ROW80 Update!

Week 1 Action Plan Progress:

  • Blue with Overstrike: Completed.

  • Green: In Progress.

  • Black: Not Yet Begun

  • Note: My final September update will be posted on Sunday, October 8.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Complete two chapters Spellfire; one Stained. Weeks: 1-5

  • Spellfire: Chapter Four (1 /2 for the week) in progress; page 7/13 complete.

Complete five hometending rounds on porch; three in study; and one in bedroom. Weeks 1-3.

  • Bedroom round completed; top of cabinet; some clutter policed.

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice twice weekly. Weeks 1-3.

Professional/Financial:

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

Complete Modules One/Two. Week 1.

SEO Course:

Get idea of dates for this course/set base schedule. Week 1

  • I now know when the course will launch, and have set my tentative schedule. 
  • Goal COMPLETED!

HTRYN:

Complete three hours of How to Revise Your Novel lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night.” Weeks 1-12.

  • 1/3 hours completed; Lesson 5/22 in progress; Scene Card 21/21 in progress.

Solemates:

Complete Planning elements.Weeks 1-2.

OctPoWriMo 2017: 

Complete 7/31 poems. Week 1.

  • 3/7 poems completed for Week 1.

Chef Bluebeard:

Format UPC code labels; experiment with sticker paper: Week 1.

Create discount program and signage: Week 1.

Respond to L.S. and order more books. Week 1.

  • Contacted editor; once shipping price confirmed, will pay.

Create event calendar to avoid overbooking. Week 1.

Work events as needed. Weeks 1-12.

  • Worked Sunday/Monday markets.

Contact three venues and three stores for sales. Week 1.

  • Contacted 1/3 venues; already full.

Health, Fitness, and Spirituality:

Samsung Health:

Catch up 5K Week 3/Complete Week 4: Week 1

  • I made up the two workouts I missed last week due to having a cold.

Tai chi, yoga, reiki:

Tai chi: Attend class twice weekly; either Monday evening, or Tuesday and/or Thursday afternoons: Weeks 1-12.

  • Tai chi 1 /2 completed Tuesday.

Cook a vegetable based meal/snack.

  • Cook a vegetable based meal/snack on Wednesday: Weeks 1-2.

Personal Expression:

Purchase three new bras.

Buy bra at Lane Bryant/order 1 at ThirdLove. Week 1.

  • 1/3: Cacique bra purchased at Lane Bryant; now know my size for ThirdLove.

Assess jewelry; purchase new pieces as they speak to me.

  • Go through the jewelry I already have; save and/or discard as I choose. Week 1- 3.

Evaluate wardrobe as the season changes.

Purchase jeans at Lane Bryant, and running socks. Week 1.

  • Goal COMPLETED!

Kait Nolan’s ROW80  –

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