Do you know that feeling of wanting to set a goal, but being still too fuzzy on the details to do it? There’s kind of a nagging quality to it, that crawling feeling of something that wants tending to left undone.
I’ve been feeling that, when it comes to fitness and health – I knew I wanted to set escalating goals that build upon one another, and yet still make sense within the reality of my life- the framework into which everything else must fit.
But I was stuck on how to do this.
And that’s where the wonderful world of blogging comes in.
Last spring, I read this wonderful post by Amy Kennedy. I resolved to begin my own #onegoodcupproject that same day, and, I’ve done it nearly every day since. I write in three separate journals, do a bit of reading, and meditate for a few minutes, which puts me in a mindful frame for the rest of my day.
Sometimes, the intersections between the things I read and do hold magic. My intentions journal, for instance, has action-inciting prompts scattered through its pages. On December 2, I reached one that asked me to outline my overall health goals. This is what I wrote, that day:
“Outlining my goals needs some thought, brainstorming, and focus. Maybe why I haven’t been oriented to this more…
Tomorrow, I delve into the emotions.
Tonight, I ponder.”
Clearly, I wasn’t exactly primed to make anything approaching a specific plan…and the next entry? Well, judge for yourself:
December 4, 2015 –
“I didn’t write here yesterday – the kids and I headed to Saratoga for the Victorian Streetwalk, which we usually attend if weather and schedule cooperate.
Had a lovely time, and, of course, did some walking!
Okay, so on to health goals…here’s my first impressions:
These are the main categories I want to focus on…”
Are you starting to see the problem,here? It’s really hard to change something for the better when I can’t even define the change I want to make in general terms!
Here’s the next entry:
December 6, 2015 –
“Missed yesterday again. More walking – Annalise received an invitation…
OK, for the health goals….I have to confess, I’m not feeling them now. More tomorrow…”
Clearly, there was some serious resistance going on, here. I needed a lifeline. And then, one found me.
December 7, 2015 –
“I think I have the glimmer of an idea that will shape my exploration and setting of fitness/health goals…
That will benefit me – I’m thinking I can do it either once or twice a month; not only would that keep me accountable and forward-thinking, it would give me ready MM topics for those weeks, and be even better if I develop a template for these…”
This may not be quite the tack most people would take for this prompt – but I had been disconnected from it, and now I’m feeling energized and raring to create a new vision and bring it to life!
Yay, words and writing!”
Ah, so there’s my “in”! Now that it’s in ink, I don’t know how I missed it so long. For me, experiencefreely shared through words, experience that might help someone else to a goal of their own, is a powerful motivator. It’s obvious with the shifting vibe, the longer entry, and the way it continues into the next post:
December 8, 2015 –
“I’ve been thinking more about the MM fitness link.
I’ll let myself feel my way into this topic, a little at a time…because it’s not about ticking things off a to-do list – it’s about my life!”
Ah, and there was the realization I needed to really start to connect with the idea. It was the union of intent, motivation, mission, and revelation. Where I began with a sense of befuddled resistance to an idea that seemed vague and overwhelming, I’ve now come to the place where I’ve got a mindful approach that makes sense to me, because it suits my nature and my life. It gives me the time and space to think and feel this through organically, and to make shifts as I need to. More than that, I’ll be doing it in community, and that is also important to me, because I can draw from others, and offer to others, as I go along. And I honor my creative spirit, which might just be my best tool for change.
I’ll be back in two weeks with the first musings and small steps on the path to a greater vision.
In the meantime, I’d love to hear your stories! When you set goals, are you mindful of your own nature Do you use it to achieve your goals, or does it seem you’re always trying to exert your will against it?
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