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Across the Threshold:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear EOW2

It’s been a while since I’ve posted an update – about 10 days, as a matter of fact.

A lot has changed. Rather than living with my husband’s terminal cancer diagnosis, I’m now living in the aftermath of his death with our children, ages 13.5 and 16. There’s been  muddling, tears, planning, time with his sisters who came cross-country to spend his last days with us, laughter, moments of pain and grace.

We’ve crossed the threshold of waiting, and are taking this week, the three of us, just to gather ourselves. Next week, we begin finding our way forward along a path that’s still indistinct, but growing clearer as we blaze our own trails.

That’s what the rest of the round will be about, for me…blazing trails, building cairns to mark the new paths, and forging on.

A candid couple moment at the playground, September 2013.
  • Blue with Overstrike:  Goal Completed.
  • Green:  In Progress.
  • Black: Still Waiting.
  • Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November: Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly: Weeks 112.

  • 3/8.
  • Progress: 40%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed: Due Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members: Weeks 112.

  • Checked in with everyone. Kids seeking bedroom changes and greater cleanliness. Jim wants to be comfortable, and eat or drink things he enjoys.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs: Weeks 112.

  • Spent time helping all; intensified in Week Two. 7/
  • Progress: 70%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily: Weeks 112.

  • Week One was a bit shaky, but Jim’s condition worsened over the weekend, and the kids and I spent considerable time together in those spaces.
  • Progress: 90%.

Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 1-12.

  • Gathering, considering, and, as much as possible, enacting (see above).
  • Progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Moved sauces off the family room table; considering ways of moving them wholesale.
  • Progress: 40%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Gathered bills, statements, and info; began triaging.
  • Progress: 35%

Assist Jim in paying back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business at the appropriate time: Due Week 6.

  • This is now my responsibility alone; have info but haven’t read yet.
  • Progress: 15%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • I’ve decided to let someone else unravel this complicated year.
  • Progress: 10%.

Create a base family budget – for now, and for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • More brainstorming and conversation.
  • Progress: 20%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 1-12.

  • Revision 1/2 for story start 3/11; drafted story start 4/11.
  • Progress: 10%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 112.

  • A little blog reading/commenting/ sprinting. Wrote a blog hop post, but didn’t manage to post it.
  • Week One progress: 40%.

Being:

 Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 1-12.

  • No official lists yet, but ideas I have been pursuing as offers are made.
  • Week Two progress: 15%

Ask each family member both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 112.

  • Happening organically as we adapt.
  • Progress: 40%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 1-12.

  • Again, it’s an organic process.
  • Progress: 25%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 112.

  • Spoke with hospice social worker regarding several areas of concern.
  • Progress: 35%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 1-12.

  • We’ve come up with standard suggestions, and a few more specific ones, and have been offering them when asked.
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Missed Friday, the night Jim died, for obvious reasons.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Some of all marked.
  • Progress: 75%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 1-12.

  • More hard-boiled eggs; butternut squash/sweet potato soup; and steel-cut oats.
  • Progress: 100%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 1-12.

  • Saved several from my Facebook group; joined another.
  • Progress: 100%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Due Week 3.

  • Made Jim a mango/apple cider smoothie.
  • Progress: 50%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 1-12.

  • Did well until Jim became bedbound and semi-lucid, and the uncertainty led to many short bursts of cleaning every day.
  • Progress: 55%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 1-12.

  • Did better with this one.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 1-12.

  • This has fallen by the wayside for the moment.
  • Progress: 40%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 1-12.

  • Some; not as much as I’d like.
  • Progress: 30%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 1-12.

  • Life forced its hand on this one late in Week One.
  • Progress: 90%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 112.

  • I had little choice, here – exhaustion and need prevailed.
  • Progress: 85%

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I’m closing today with a favorite song from my childhood. I’ve been thinking of it quite a lot lately…

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And We’ve Begun:  #ROW80/#12WeekYear /Midweek Update 1

 

And…we’re off and running on another Round of Words in 80 Days! It’s time for our first midweek update.

I’m still adjusting to my new goals and focus, but they feel right for the transitional place my life is in, and I did make some progress, even if not so much in the arena of writing…

How are you doing with your aspirations in this new year?

My Round One/ 12 Week Year Two Goals

  • Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

  • Green:  In Progress.

  • Black: Still Waiting.

 

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November: Due Week 2.

  • Week One progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly: Due Weeks 1-12.

  • 1/4 times this week – errand run.
  • Week One progress: 25%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed:  Due Week 1.

  • Moved all the essentials and deep cleaned with help from Miah.
  • Organized/cleaned/reset as I went.
  • Week One goal COMPLETED!

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members: Weeks 112.

  • Checked in with everyone. Mostly what’s needed are groceries, comfortable temperatures, and, for the kids, time with friends.
  • Week One progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs: Weeks 1-12.

  • Not formally, but did consider this on Monday; 1/5.
  • Week One progress: 15%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily: Weeks 1-12.

  • Honestly, I’ve been grouchy a lot more than I wanted to be – but spent some time with Jim, Miah, and Lise in these spaces.
  • Week One progress: 65%.

Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 1-12.

  • Doing well with this one. Gathering, considering, and, as much as possible, enacting (see above).
  • Week One progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Have a plan to get sauces off the family room table when the tree comes down in a few days. It’s a start.
  • Week One progress: 10%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates:  Due Week 4.

  • The process has begun with fuel and electric bills, and searching for insurance info Jim put “somewhere.”
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Assist Jim in paying back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business at the appropriate time: Due Week 6.

  • A bit of talk here; no real action yet.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • See above.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Create a base family budget – for now, and for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Some internal brainstorming and conversation.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Due Weeks 1-12.

  • Drafted story start 3/11.
  • Week One progress: 5%

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Due Weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Due Weeks 112.

  • Some reading/commenting/ attempting sprints.
  • Week One progress: 20%.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Ask each family member for ideas at least weekly. Due weeks 112.

  • Talked with Jim; 1/
  • Week One progress: 33%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Chatted w/ writing group friends; a general plan is emerging.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Due weeks 1-12.

  • See above.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Be ready with ideas when general assistance is offered.  Due weeks 1-12.

  • This doesn’t come naturally to me, but I am learning.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek.  Due weeks 1-12.

  • I haven’t been quite as chatty, and I’ve been late some, but I have made all chats during
  • Week One progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Some of all marked.
  • Week One progress: 50%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Saved a couple I found while browsing my Facebook group.
  • Week One progress: 10%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly . Due Week 3.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Sunday and Tuesday were active; Mnday was more restful.
  • Week One progress: 100%

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Fell down on this, but began to reset on it later in the day Tuesday.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Journaled Monday and Tuesday. Meditated Monday.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Some; not as much as I’d like.
  • Week One progress: 20%

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Fell down some on this; but managed to pick myself up again.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Due weeks 1-12.

  • This is a tricky one when life and our home are chaotic – but I did manage it more often than not, in several ways.
  • Week One progress: 60%

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The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

Something for me…reclaiming a cluttered shelf. Books, Stones form various places, and my great-grandma Edmunds’ ceramic swan planter.

 

 

 

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Another Beginning:  ROW80 Round One/12 Week Year Two Goals

Happy 2018, everyone!

As has become the custom, I’m running later than I wanted to be. Life has been very busy of late, as I and my family learn to deal with the realities of terminal illness. The ROW80 “break” was filled, for me, with adjustments – moving furniture, accepting and adapting to Jim’s new limitations, taking on new responsibilities, and seeking joy amid sorrow.

I also spent some time thinking about my 2018 Round 1/ 12 Week Year Two goals. I was stumped, for a while, because so much is uncertain in my life, beyond that the changes will keep coming, and are likely to be disruptive.

I finally decided to create goals that are less specific than my usual. I’ve separated them by category, but also by Doing/Being.

I may not manage all, most, or any of these goals – but I have a need for a direction and goals of my own, even now…

On Wednesday, I’ll share my progress-to-date, as well as the Action Plan for Week One.

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Relationships, Family, and Home: 

Doing:

  • Tend to family and home through cleaning, rearranging, homeschooling, and meeting needs.
  • Touch base with all family members weekly; facilitate what they need/want as I am able.

Being:

  • Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place.
  • Simply be with my beloveds, and enjoy the spaces we’re creating in our home and our lives.

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

  • Make and enact plans for business liquidation; family finances; and personal professional development as possible.
  • Evaluate family finances while Jim is still able; assure I can access all relevant accounts; secondary priority.
  • Devote one hour to personal professional development, five days weekly; tertiary priority.

Being:

  • Take time to feel my way and the needs of those around me; ask for and accept help as needed/offered.
  • Spend a few moments five days weekly organizing these ideas and available/potential resources into plans/actions, and honoring those who offered them.

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

  • Get adequate exercise; stress relief; entertainment; nutrition; and rest.

Being:

  • Dedicate time to personal and interpersonal mind/body/soul practices.
  • Practice journaling and meditation at least five times weekly.
  • Take breaks/touch base with other family members as needed throughout the week. 

 

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ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

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Unfinished Foundations:  ROW80 Round 4 Final Update/12 Week Year Week 12 Midweek:

I know I’m running very late. Life has been chaotic, of late,and has demanded a great deal of focus on the Right Here, Right Now.

I don’t have an official 2017 wrap-up for this year, since I decided three-quarters of the way in to scrap the annual goals and go to The 12 Week Year. I’m glad I did. Jim’s terminal cancer diagnosis at Week Six shifted nearly all of my priorities, and a 12 week year is a lot easier to adapt to changing circumstances than a 52 week one!

So, without further ado, here’s how my first 12 Week Year (also known as ROW80 Round 4, 2017) shook out:

My 12 Week Year Q4 Goals

Color Codes:

Blue with Overstrike: Completed.

Green: In Progress.

Black:  Not Yet.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Beta Reading:

One chapter of either Spellfire’s Kiss or Stained Blood each week, as possible: Week 12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Hometending:

Complete three hometending rounds each in bedroom; porch; and (former) study: Week 12.

  • Bedroom 3/3 completed – and then some. I bought a new-to-me night table and dresser on Sunday, and have been reorganizing.
  • Study/porch both 2/3 for the week.
  • Week 12 progress: about 85%

Complete one hometending round bathroom; family room; kitchen; and living room each week. Week 12.

  • >1/1 for living room. 1/1 for kitchen/family room.
  • Week 12 progress: about 85%.

Homeschool Administration:

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice four times weekly, circumstances dependent: Week 12.

  • 1/4 this week.
  • Week 12 progress: 25%.


Professional/Financial:

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

  • Give 30 minutes/week to Modules One/Two: Weeks 10-12.
  • Week 12 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete 30 minutes of current lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night”: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

New Writing:

Among the Firestars:

Complete Plotting elements: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Complete Rough draft: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Complete Lesson One of Holly Lisle’s Flash Fiction mini-course:  Week 12.

  • Wrote/revised 2/11 story starts.
  • Week 12 progress: about 50%

Chef Bluebeard:

Research changing thrust/ownership of website: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Organize/inventory existing stock: Week 12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Create plan to liquidate/publicize liquidation: Week 12.

  • More brainstorming.
  • 6 bottles sold to a friend who needed gifts.
  • Week 12 progress: about 25%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

The Big Scary Thing:

Spend the time needed to learn and adjust to the reality of Jim’s condition, and to deal with the circumstances as they evolve: Week 12.

  • Adjusting and learning ongoing. Getting in the swing of hospice; I think we’ve met most everyone now.
  • Week 12 progress: about 60%.

Seek and accept help as needed/offered.  Also seek out those willing to help organize, because it’s hard for me to think about that while focusing on Jim, the children, and myself: Week 12.

  • Offers accepted as needed.
  • Week 12 progress: about 60%.

Fitness and Health:

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and give them the types of exercise, stretching, and challenge they need in trying times:  Week 12.

  • Lots of hometending, firewood tending, and resting a knee sore from lots of physical exertion.
  • Week 12 goal: COMPLETED.

Mindful Eating:

Eat three vegetable based meals/snacks; aim for Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Week 12.

  • 3/3 complete; butternut squash ravioli; vegetable lasagna; large salad.
  • Week 12 goal: COMPLETED.

Experiment with Instant Pot veggie-based meals: Week 12.

  • Bought eggs for hard boiling (first simple project) and spinach/kale blend for the veggie experimentation that will follow.
  • Week 12 progress: 10%

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Wobbling Foundations:  ROW80/12 Week Year Week 11 Final:

 It’s Sunday again*, and that means it’s time for a ROW80/12 Week Year Update.

*Well…it WAS Sunday when I originally wrote this. It’s now the waning hours of Wednesday, and I’ve yet to get it finished and posted.

Week 11 was when life took it over, and I wrote no new words…I’m not sure I even wrote in my journal all week. Sometimes life (and impending death) are far more important.

Have you ever set your writing aside to deal with Real Life?

Did it work?

How did you feel?

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Beta Reading:

One chapter of either Spellfire’s Kiss or Stained Blood each week, as possible: Weeks 11-12

  • Week 11 progress: 0% 

Hometending:

Complete three hometending rounds each in bedroom; porch; and study: Weeks 1112.

  • All 3/3 completed – and then some.
  • Study is being repurposed as a game room for the kids, since I really haven’t been using it. The lack of a window is a detriment to me; but will be a benefit to them – and the space is out of the main traffic flow, which our living room is not.
  • Week 11 goal EXCEEDED!

Complete one hometending round bathroom; family room; kitchen; and living room each week. Week 1112.

  • >1/1 for all.
  • Week 11 goal: EXCEEDED!

Homeschool Administration:

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice four times weekly, circumstances dependent: Weeks 11-12.

  • First time driving Jim’s Forester, which will eventually be his, and more snow driving. 4/4.
  • Week 11 goal: COMPLETED!

Professional/Financial:

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

  • Give 30 minutes/week to Modules One/Two: Weeks 10-12.
  • Week 11 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete 30 minutes of current lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night”: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

New Writing:

Among the Firestars:

Complete Plotting elements: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Complete Rough draft: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Submissions:

Complete Lesson One of Holly Lisle’s Flash Fiction mini-course:  Week 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Chef Bluebeard:

Research changing thrust/ownership of website: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Organize/inventory existing stock: Week 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Create plan to liquidate/publicize liquidation: Weeks 11-12.

  • Brainstorming alone, and with Jim.
  • Week 11 progress: about 10% 

Body, Mind, and Soul:

The Big Scary Thing:

Spend the time needed to learn and adjust to the reality of Jim’s condition, and to deal with the circumstances as they evolve: Weeks 11-12.

  • A week of changes that began with Jim in the hospital, and ended with him home and enrolled in hospice care…the final stage of our journey together has commenced.
  • Week 11 goal: COMPLETED.

Seek and accept help as needed/offered.  Also seek out those willing to help organize, because it’s hard for me to think about that while focusing on Jim, the children, and myself: Weeks 11-12.

  • Slowly finding our “new new normal” and pulling things together.
  • Week 11 goal: COMPLETED.

Fitness and Health:

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and give them the types of exercise, stretching, and challenge they need in trying times:  Weeks 1112.

  • Lots of hometending, rest, and firewood hauling.
  • Week 11 goal: COMPLETED. 

Mindful Eating:

Eat three vegetable based meals/snacks; aim for Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Week 11-12.

  • 5/3 complete; butternut squash soup; celery and baby carrots; squash ravioli; teriyaki tempeh x2.
  • Week 11 goal: EXCEEDED!

Experiment with Instant Pot veggie-based meals: Weeks 11-12.

  • Did initial test run with water; more experimentation pending.
  • Week 10 progress: 10%

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Impermanent Foundations:  ROW80/12 Week Year Week 10 Final

It’s Sunday again, and that means it’s time for a ROW80/12 Week Year Update. This one happens to be old – it’s been waiting over a week to be posted. Life has been….full.

Jim was in the hospital for nine days, and came home Wednesday. Thursday, we enrolled in hospice care, a cord of firewood was deposited in our driveway, and the well man came to begin repairs because Jeremiah and I broke a pipe while trying to insulate the well opening on Monday, resulting in most of the week without running water.

So an old update is the best I can do, at the moment…I may do something for Week 11 a bit later – or maybe not, since I did no new writing.

**

I’d love to be able to say that all is going smoothly in my world…but this isn’t a fictional post, and life isn’t always smooth. No foundation is permanent.

And this week, amid our holiday preparations, I’m learning how impermanent mine are.

Bloodwork shows that Jim’s reaction to chemo on Monday was more than an allergy – he suffered a small heart attack either during treatment, or later, in the emergency room. This is the successor to a silent attack he had a couple of years ago, and which we knew nothing about until he was first admitted to the hospital last month. This second attack was likely caused by the fact that the tumor in his liver is preventing its proper function, and causing his heart to work too hard trying to supply it with blood.

A liver stent was placed on Wednesday – but it’s not helping.

They’re considering a stent for his heart, as well, but that would mean more blood thinners in addition to those he’s on for the DVT in his right leg. He’s in the hospital for the weekend; more tests on Monday. Maybe an option to make life more comfortable…

The things that could kill him are mounting. So is the inevitability of impermanence. I’m not the type to hide from things…

And still, it’s Christmastime. I want this year to be special – a different kind of foundation upon which the children and I can build, later…but I’m not simply waiting and hoping for that. I’m creating those new foundations, bit by bit, and, because of that, some of my time was spent in things not on the goals list – making room for a Christmas tree (we don’t always have one, but Lise wanted one this year), and cleaning up the clutter that had gathered around the woodstove. On Saturday night, I was able to light a fire and cozify things with that warm glow.

I’d love to add some joyful holiday stories to these new foundations…do you have any to  you’d share with me?

My Revised ROW80 Round 4/ 12 Week Year End of Quarter 3 Goals

(updating at some later point; hopefully tonight, but maybe not).

 Relationships, Family, and Home:

Beta Reading:

One chapter of either Spellfire’s Kiss or Stained Blood each week, as possible: Weeks 10-12

  • Stained Blood: Highlighted Chapter Six for beta-ing.
  • Week 10 progress: about 10%

Hometending:

Complete three hometending rounds each in bedroom; porch; and study: Weeks 10-12.

  • Porch 3/3
  • Bedroom: 3/3
  • Study became the temporary catchall space for living room clutter; no progredd here.
  • Week 10 progress: about 66%

Complete one hometending round bathroom; family room; kitchen; and living room each week. Week 10-12.

  • 1/1: Kitchen; bathroom; family room.
  • 13/1:living room (and there may be more; I want to make this space festive and comforting as the center of our family life).
  • Week 10 goal: EXCEEDED!

Homeschool Administration:

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice four times weekly, circumstances dependent: Weeks 10-12.

  • Drove in fog, rain, and through snow. Also drove Jim’s Forester for the first time; this will eventually be his car. 4/4.
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED!

Professional/Financial: 

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

Give 30 minutes/week to Modules One/Two: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete 30 minutes of current lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night”: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

New Writing:

Among the Firestars:

Complete Plotting elements: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Complete Rough draft: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Complete Lesson One of Holly Lisle’s Flash Fiction mini-course:  Week 10.

  • Section 3/4 in progress.
  • Week 10 progress: about 40%

Chef Bluebeard:

Research changing thrust/ownership of website: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Organize/inventory existing stock: Week 10.

  • Week 10 progress: about 15%

Create plan to liquidate/publicize liquidation: Weeks 10 -12.

  • Week 10 progress: about 10%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

The Big Scary Thing:

Spend the time needed to learn and adjust to the reality of Jim’s condition, and to deal with the circumstances as they evolve: Weeks 10-12.

  • Some reflection; lots of cleaning; some looking forward…
  • Read Chemotherapy and You (59 pages) and Eating Tips (68 pages), both books from the oncology center, so I can disseminate information for Jim, and be aware.
  • Visiting Friday.
  • Sorted paperwork; did more reading.
  • Adjusting to many changes.
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED.

Seek and accept help as needed/offered.  Also seek out those willing to help organize, because it’s hard for me to think about that while focusing on Jim, the children, and myself: Weeks 10-12.

  • Accepted an offer of dinner after consulting with the kids, and items of practical use for the family.
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED.

Fitness and Health:

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and give them the types of exercise, stretching, and challenge they need in trying times:  Weeks 10-12.

  • Doing better. Hometending in abundance through second half of week.
  • Week 10 progress: about 75%

Mindful Eating:

Eat three vegetable based meals/snacks; aim for Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Week 10-12.

  • After a rough start, I had sweet potato fries on Tuesday; vegetable lasagna on Wednesday; and broccoli pot pie on Thursday.
  • 3/3
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED.

Read instructions for Instant Pot: Week 10.

  • Read owner’s manualother associated literature.
  • Week 10 goal: COMPLETED.

Experiment with Instant Pot veggie-based meals: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Personal Expression:

Order another bra to duplicate favorite: Weeks 10- 12.

  • Setting this goal aside for the duration.
  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Purchase ear muffs: Week 10.

  • Week 10 and Year One goal: EXCEEDED.

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Foundation in Flux:  ROW80/12 Week Year Week 10 Midweek

When I posted my Week 9 Final Update on Sunday, we were looking forward to Jim’s first session of chemotherapy on Monday, and hoping it would signal the beginning of a “honeymoon” where he might get to feeling better for a while. We were thinking of travel, a family portrait – and just enjoying.

Things didn’t quite work out that way.

Jim had allergic reactions to two of the drugs used in his regimen. That caused his blood pressure and heart rates to get scary-high, and he ended up admitted to the acute care ward. They’ve discovered that the cancer in his liver has compromised function; so a stent is being considered. They’ve also found some potential concerns with his heart.

When (if?) chemo resumes, they’ll be using a different regimen less likely to cause reactions.

According to Jim (I haven’t spoken with his doctors yet), they have more questions than answers right now.

I can relate.

 I feel as though I’m poised on the edge between two worlds and two lives…it’s hard to settle or plan too far in advance. For instance, today’s plan is to rest – I’ve been running places for the last week and a half. I’m writing, hometending, and hoping to help Lise pick her Christmas tree today, along with laundry and a bit of shopping.

But, if Jim needs me…well, I’ll be heading out to the hospital about an hour away.

Everything’s in flux, but sometimes life’s just like that, y’know?

Relationships, Family, and Home: 

Beta Reading:

One chapter of either Spellfire’s Kiss or Stained Blood each week, as possible: Weeks 10-12

  • Stained Blood: Highlighted Chapter Six for beta-ing.
  • Week 10 progress: about 10%

 Hometending:

Complete three hometending rounds each in bedroom; porch; and study: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: about 8%

Complete one hometending round bathroom; family room; kitchen; and living room each week. Week 10-12.

  • 1/1: Kitchen; bathroom; living room.
  • 2/1: Family room.
  • Week 10 goal: EXCEEDED.

Homeschool Administration:

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice four times weekly, circumstances dependent: Weeks 10-12.

  • Jeremiah drove on the interstate. At night. In a steady, foggy rain. He was wary and nervous, and did a fine job, nonetheless. 1/4.
  • Week 10 progress: 25%

Professional/Financial:

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

Give 30 minutes/week to Modules One/Two: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete 30 minutes of current lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night”: Weeks 10-12.

New Writing:

Among the Firestars:

  • Complete Plotting elements: Weeks 10-12.
  • Complete Rough draft: Weeks 10-12.

Complete Lesson One of Holly Lisle’s Flash Fiction mini-course: Week 10.

  • Read all introductory materials; and to first stop point of Lesson One.
  • Printed all lesson and worksheet pages for later use.
  • Week 10 progress: about 15%

Chef Bluebeard:

Research changing thrust/ownership of website: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Organize/inventory existing stock: Week 10.

  • I combined this goal with cleaning the living room (where most of the stock was; began sorting full bottles from those waiting to be filled; moved to family room table to organize later.
  • Week 10 progress: about 15%

Create plan to liquidate/publicize liquidation: Weeks 10-12.

  • The seeds of a plan are rattling around in my brain. They aren’t a cohesive plan by any means, but they are slowly coalescing into the beginnings of one…
  • Which took its first shaky breaths on Tuesday night. We’ll see where it goes once I’ve finished the inventory.
  • Week 10 progress: about 10%

Health, Fitness, and Spirituality:

The Big Scary Thing:

Spend the time needed to learn and adjust to the reality of Jim’s condition, and to deal with the circumstances as they evolve: Weeks 10-12.

  • Way more of this than I wanted, actually. Between the medical front and the documentation front, my brain feels so full of information that it’s kind of leaking out around the edges into everything else.
  • Week 10 progress: about 75%

Seek and accept help as needed/offered.  Also seek out those willing to help organize, because it’s hard for me to think about that while focusing on Jim, the children, and myself: Weeks 10-12.

  • Yes, in several ways I’ll probably detail more in Year 2 (Round One 2018).
  • Week 10 progress: about 75%

Fitness and Health:

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and give them the types of exercise, stretching, and challenge they need in trying times:  Weeks 1012.

  • Doing the best I can, here. Monday was a lot of sitting with Jim while he was at chemo. Hometending on Sunday and Tuesday; and some much-needed rest.
  • Week 10 progress: about 25%

Mindful Eating:

Eat three vegetable based meals/snacks; aim for Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Week 10-12.

  • Eating in general has been dicey, this week, with time spent in hospitals.
  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Read instructions for Instant Pot: Week 10.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Experiment with Instant Pot veggie-based meals: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 10 progress: 0%

Personal Expression: 

Purchase ear muffs: Week 10.

  • Not ear muffs, exactly. But while Miah and I were at Target, I found a cute knit headband and a bonus neck warmer (like a cross between a turtleneck and a scarf). Bought both.
  • Week 10 and Year One goal: EXCEEDED.

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