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Blazing Our Trail:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear  End of Week 3

 Hello, ROWers and others!

I’m up late, despite needing to be up early, because I want to get this post and the last load of laundry done before I grab a couple of hours’ sleep.

By the time most of you read this, I’ll be on the road with my son, taking him for a visit with out-of-state friends he’s been waiting to see. Later in the week, my daughter also has a sleepover arranged with a local(ish) friend.

We’re finding bits and pieces of normal, and making a crazy-quilt of a trail out of them…it might seem chaotic, but there’s a pattern of sorts emerging…

Which reminds me…I need to activate the new EZ-Passes.

May your Sunday be a full-rich day.

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

 Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • 6/4 – Winter storm/ roundabouts.
  • Progress: 100%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members. Weeks 3-12.

  • Checked in w/kids; connection;
  • Reached out toJim’s sisters.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 3-12.

  • Helped kids make plans and prepare to see far-flung friends, informally.
  • Met others needs/wants as possible; 6/5.
  • Progress: 100%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 3-12.

  • 7/7. This is becoming natural for all of us.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 3-12.

  • This is an ongoing process, with more ideas than time to arrange/enact them. The kids are becoming good sounding boards.
  • Both kids have been quite helpful this week. I think it may have something to do with the fact that I’ve relaxed, and have given us all permission not to try to get everything done each day, but instead to do what feels comfortable and positive.
  • Progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Still considering ways of moving sauces wholesale.
  • Progress: 50%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Received death certificate; began checking account changes; triaged business mail; gathered bills to list later.
  • Tried to initiate insurance policy search online, but company’s form is glitchy.
  • Progress: 70%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business. Due Week 6.

  • Skimmed tax info; located business insurance paperwork.
  • Progress: 25%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • Began gathering info I’ll need at tax time.
  • Progress: 15%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Gathered some bill info.
  • Changed YMCA membership from family to adult-plus-kids. Saves us about $200/year.
  • Progress: 40%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 3-12.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 3-12.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 3-12.

  • Still no official lists yet, but I’ve added gardening and massages to the list.
  • Progress: 25%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Happening organically as we adapt.
  • Progress: 45%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Again, it’s an organic process.
  • Progress: 35%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 3-12.

  • Progress: 45%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 3-12.

  • I’m getting much better at this!
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Due weeks 3-12.

  • Yes, every night. It’s my unofficial “escape” from the realities of transitioning.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Weeks 312.

  • Lots of Home and Garden TV, which I’m currently finding inspirational. Some magazines, which are balm for me in troubled times.
  • Progress: 100%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing cooked in the pot this week.
  • Shopped for ingredients for 3 recipes for the not-distant future, and I have plans to experiment with at least 5 dishes.
  • Progress: 30%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 3-12.

  • Saved one or two from my Facebook groups.
  • Bought local grocery’s quarterly recipe magazine.
  • Progress: 100%.

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing this week.
  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 3-12.

  • Regaining the essence of this – more like a day of focus on my personal space; then one on family things. It’s working well so far.
  • Progress: 85%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 3-12.

  • Yes – getting more in touch with myself and my needs.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 3-12.

  • Still not where I was, but easing closer to it.
  • Progress: 45%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 3-12.

  • Doing better here as I find my footing.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 3-12.

  • I continue to focus on this – I don’t seem to have the energy not to.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 3-12.

  • I’m enjoying time with both kids.
  • Progress: 100%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

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We Begin Again:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear Midweek 3

It’s been five days since my husband died. 

The kids and I are emerging from the limbo-of-sorts that Jim’s illness imposed upon our lives for the last two months, and especially for the last 3 weeks of his life. I’m taking stock, figuring out what needs to be done first – administratively and practically, but also emotionally and mentally.

I’m cleaning and repurposing. I need to make what was our bedroom my bedroom – it’s impossible to move forward if I keep things as they were, and Jim left a considerable amount of clutter and chaos behind that I’m gradually excavating. I’m making things a bit more female-oriented, considerably bluer, and a lot cleaner. It’s not even close to “finished,” whatever that means, but it is coming along.

I’m also decluttering the common rooms of our home. As I progress, I’m also thinking of how they could be improved. Some changes Jim and I discussed, but others are new, and that feels…strange. Like I should ask his permission, or at least his blessing, just like I would have if he was alive. Not considering his preferences is one in a long string of adjustments I’m going to need to make in the future.

It’s been five days…and I’m adjusting.

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Due Weeks 3-12.

  • 3/4 times – both routine and unfamiliar routes; good weather and snow.
  • Progress: 75%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members. Weeks 3-12.

  • Checked in with both kids; meeting needs for connection; shopped together.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 3-12.

  • Spent time helping all, informally. 2/5.
  • Progress: 30%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 3-12.

  • This is becoming natural for all of us.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 3-12.

  • This is an ongoing process.
  • Progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Still considering ways of moving sauces wholesale.
  • Progress: 50%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Spoke to credit union regarding various matters. Triage ongoing.
  • Progress: 45%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business at the appropriate time: Due Week 6.

  • Looked into closing Jim’s business accounts.
  • Progress: 20%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • Progress: 10%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Experimented with “winging” the grocery shopping. The attempt failed; we decided we need a list.
  • Progress: 25%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 3-12.

  • Progress: 10%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 3-12.

  • Not the most connected beginning to the week; I felt the need to focus on other, more immediate, matters.
  • Progress: 40%.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 3-12.

  • No official lists yet, but ideas are growing and taking shape.
  • Progress: 20%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Happening organically as we adapt.
  • Progress: 45%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Again, it’s an organic process.
  • Progress: 35%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 3-12.

  • My NNWM ML had a great idea on using Wunderlist to help me stay better organized.
  • Progress: 45%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 3-12.

  • We’ve got a list of standard suggestions, and a few more specific ones. We’ve been offering them when asked.
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Due weeks 3-12.

  • Yes, every night so far this week. It’s become my unofficial “escape” from the realities of transitioning.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Weeks 312.

  • Some of all marked.
  • Progress: 80%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing this week.
  • Progress: 0%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 3-12.

  • Saved one or two from my Facebook groups.
  • Progress: 100%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing this week.
  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 3-12.

  • Regaining the essence of this – more like a day of focus on my personal space; then one on family things. It’s a beginning.
  • Progress: 60%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 3-12.

  • Yes – getting more in touch with myself and my needs.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 3-12.

  • Still not really happening.
  • Progress: 40%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 3-12.

  • Doing better here as I find my footing in this new post-marriage reality.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 3-12.

  • I continue to focus on this – I don’t seem to have the energy not to.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 3-12.

  • I’m enjoying time with both kids. Want more connection with Jim’s sisters.
  • Progress: 75%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!
ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

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Across the Threshold:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear EOW2

It’s been a while since I’ve posted an update – about 10 days, as a matter of fact.

A lot has changed. Rather than living with my husband’s terminal cancer diagnosis, I’m now living in the aftermath of his death with our children, ages 13.5 and 16. There’s been  muddling, tears, planning, time with his sisters who came cross-country to spend his last days with us, laughter, moments of pain and grace.

We’ve crossed the threshold of waiting, and are taking this week, the three of us, just to gather ourselves. Next week, we begin finding our way forward along a path that’s still indistinct, but growing clearer as we blaze our own trails.

That’s what the rest of the round will be about, for me…blazing trails, building cairns to mark the new paths, and forging on.

A candid couple moment at the playground, September 2013.
  • Blue with Overstrike:  Goal Completed.
  • Green:  In Progress.
  • Black: Still Waiting.
  • Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November: Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly: Weeks 112.

  • 3/8.
  • Progress: 40%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed: Due Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members: Weeks 112.

  • Checked in with everyone. Kids seeking bedroom changes and greater cleanliness. Jim wants to be comfortable, and eat or drink things he enjoys.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs: Weeks 112.

  • Spent time helping all; intensified in Week Two. 7/
  • Progress: 70%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily: Weeks 112.

  • Week One was a bit shaky, but Jim’s condition worsened over the weekend, and the kids and I spent considerable time together in those spaces.
  • Progress: 90%.

Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 1-12.

  • Gathering, considering, and, as much as possible, enacting (see above).
  • Progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Moved sauces off the family room table; considering ways of moving them wholesale.
  • Progress: 40%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Gathered bills, statements, and info; began triaging.
  • Progress: 35%

Assist Jim in paying back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business at the appropriate time: Due Week 6.

  • This is now my responsibility alone; have info but haven’t read yet.
  • Progress: 15%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • I’ve decided to let someone else unravel this complicated year.
  • Progress: 10%.

Create a base family budget – for now, and for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • More brainstorming and conversation.
  • Progress: 20%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 1-12.

  • Revision 1/2 for story start 3/11; drafted story start 4/11.
  • Progress: 10%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 112.

  • A little blog reading/commenting/ sprinting. Wrote a blog hop post, but didn’t manage to post it.
  • Week One progress: 40%.

Being:

 Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 1-12.

  • No official lists yet, but ideas I have been pursuing as offers are made.
  • Week Two progress: 15%

Ask each family member both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 112.

  • Happening organically as we adapt.
  • Progress: 40%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 1-12.

  • Again, it’s an organic process.
  • Progress: 25%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 112.

  • Spoke with hospice social worker regarding several areas of concern.
  • Progress: 35%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 1-12.

  • We’ve come up with standard suggestions, and a few more specific ones, and have been offering them when asked.
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Missed Friday, the night Jim died, for obvious reasons.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Some of all marked.
  • Progress: 75%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 1-12.

  • More hard-boiled eggs; butternut squash/sweet potato soup; and steel-cut oats.
  • Progress: 100%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 1-12.

  • Saved several from my Facebook group; joined another.
  • Progress: 100%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Due Week 3.

  • Made Jim a mango/apple cider smoothie.
  • Progress: 50%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 1-12.

  • Did well until Jim became bedbound and semi-lucid, and the uncertainty led to many short bursts of cleaning every day.
  • Progress: 55%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 1-12.

  • Did better with this one.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 1-12.

  • This has fallen by the wayside for the moment.
  • Progress: 40%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 1-12.

  • Some; not as much as I’d like.
  • Progress: 30%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 1-12.

  • Life forced its hand on this one late in Week One.
  • Progress: 90%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 112.

  • I had little choice, here – exhaustion and need prevailed.
  • Progress: 85%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

I’m closing today with a favorite song from my childhood. I’ve been thinking of it quite a lot lately…

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And We’ve Begun:  #ROW80/#12WeekYear /Midweek Update 1

 

And…we’re off and running on another Round of Words in 80 Days! It’s time for our first midweek update.

I’m still adjusting to my new goals and focus, but they feel right for the transitional place my life is in, and I did make some progress, even if not so much in the arena of writing…

How are you doing with your aspirations in this new year?

My Round One/ 12 Week Year Two Goals

  • Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

  • Green:  In Progress.

  • Black: Still Waiting.

 

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November: Due Week 2.

  • Week One progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly: Due Weeks 1-12.

  • 1/4 times this week – errand run.
  • Week One progress: 25%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed:  Due Week 1.

  • Moved all the essentials and deep cleaned with help from Miah.
  • Organized/cleaned/reset as I went.
  • Week One goal COMPLETED!

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members: Weeks 112.

  • Checked in with everyone. Mostly what’s needed are groceries, comfortable temperatures, and, for the kids, time with friends.
  • Week One progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs: Weeks 1-12.

  • Not formally, but did consider this on Monday; 1/5.
  • Week One progress: 15%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily: Weeks 1-12.

  • Honestly, I’ve been grouchy a lot more than I wanted to be – but spent some time with Jim, Miah, and Lise in these spaces.
  • Week One progress: 65%.

Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 1-12.

  • Doing well with this one. Gathering, considering, and, as much as possible, enacting (see above).
  • Week One progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Have a plan to get sauces off the family room table when the tree comes down in a few days. It’s a start.
  • Week One progress: 10%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates:  Due Week 4.

  • The process has begun with fuel and electric bills, and searching for insurance info Jim put “somewhere.”
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Assist Jim in paying back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business at the appropriate time: Due Week 6.

  • A bit of talk here; no real action yet.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • See above.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Create a base family budget – for now, and for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Some internal brainstorming and conversation.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Due Weeks 1-12.

  • Drafted story start 3/11.
  • Week One progress: 5%

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Due Weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Due Weeks 112.

  • Some reading/commenting/ attempting sprints.
  • Week One progress: 20%.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Ask each family member for ideas at least weekly. Due weeks 112.

  • Talked with Jim; 1/
  • Week One progress: 33%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Chatted w/ writing group friends; a general plan is emerging.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Due weeks 1-12.

  • See above.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Be ready with ideas when general assistance is offered.  Due weeks 1-12.

  • This doesn’t come naturally to me, but I am learning.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek.  Due weeks 1-12.

  • I haven’t been quite as chatty, and I’ve been late some, but I have made all chats during
  • Week One progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Some of all marked.
  • Week One progress: 50%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Saved a couple I found while browsing my Facebook group.
  • Week One progress: 10%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly . Due Week 3.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Sunday and Tuesday were active; Mnday was more restful.
  • Week One progress: 100%

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Fell down on this, but began to reset on it later in the day Tuesday.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Journaled Monday and Tuesday. Meditated Monday.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Some; not as much as I’d like.
  • Week One progress: 20%

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Fell down some on this; but managed to pick myself up again.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Due weeks 1-12.

  • This is a tricky one when life and our home are chaotic – but I did manage it more often than not, in several ways.
  • Week One progress: 60%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

Something for me…reclaiming a cluttered shelf. Books, Stones form various places, and my great-grandma Edmunds’ ceramic swan planter.

 

 

 

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Another Beginning:  ROW80 Round One/12 Week Year Two Goals

Happy 2018, everyone!

As has become the custom, I’m running later than I wanted to be. Life has been very busy of late, as I and my family learn to deal with the realities of terminal illness. The ROW80 “break” was filled, for me, with adjustments – moving furniture, accepting and adapting to Jim’s new limitations, taking on new responsibilities, and seeking joy amid sorrow.

I also spent some time thinking about my 2018 Round 1/ 12 Week Year Two goals. I was stumped, for a while, because so much is uncertain in my life, beyond that the changes will keep coming, and are likely to be disruptive.

I finally decided to create goals that are less specific than my usual. I’ve separated them by category, but also by Doing/Being.

I may not manage all, most, or any of these goals – but I have a need for a direction and goals of my own, even now…

On Wednesday, I’ll share my progress-to-date, as well as the Action Plan for Week One.

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Relationships, Family, and Home: 

Doing:

  • Tend to family and home through cleaning, rearranging, homeschooling, and meeting needs.
  • Touch base with all family members weekly; facilitate what they need/want as I am able.

Being:

  • Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place.
  • Simply be with my beloveds, and enjoy the spaces we’re creating in our home and our lives.

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

  • Make and enact plans for business liquidation; family finances; and personal professional development as possible.
  • Evaluate family finances while Jim is still able; assure I can access all relevant accounts; secondary priority.
  • Devote one hour to personal professional development, five days weekly; tertiary priority.

Being:

  • Take time to feel my way and the needs of those around me; ask for and accept help as needed/offered.
  • Spend a few moments five days weekly organizing these ideas and available/potential resources into plans/actions, and honoring those who offered them.

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

  • Get adequate exercise; stress relief; entertainment; nutrition; and rest.

Being:

  • Dedicate time to personal and interpersonal mind/body/soul practices.
  • Practice journaling and meditation at least five times weekly.
  • Take breaks/touch base with other family members as needed throughout the week. 

 

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Unfinished Foundations:  ROW80 Round 4 Final Update/12 Week Year Week 12 Midweek:

I know I’m running very late. Life has been chaotic, of late,and has demanded a great deal of focus on the Right Here, Right Now.

I don’t have an official 2017 wrap-up for this year, since I decided three-quarters of the way in to scrap the annual goals and go to The 12 Week Year. I’m glad I did. Jim’s terminal cancer diagnosis at Week Six shifted nearly all of my priorities, and a 12 week year is a lot easier to adapt to changing circumstances than a 52 week one!

So, without further ado, here’s how my first 12 Week Year (also known as ROW80 Round 4, 2017) shook out:

My 12 Week Year Q4 Goals

Color Codes:

Blue with Overstrike: Completed.

Green: In Progress.

Black:  Not Yet.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Beta Reading:

One chapter of either Spellfire’s Kiss or Stained Blood each week, as possible: Week 12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Hometending:

Complete three hometending rounds each in bedroom; porch; and (former) study: Week 12.

  • Bedroom 3/3 completed – and then some. I bought a new-to-me night table and dresser on Sunday, and have been reorganizing.
  • Study/porch both 2/3 for the week.
  • Week 12 progress: about 85%

Complete one hometending round bathroom; family room; kitchen; and living room each week. Week 12.

  • >1/1 for living room. 1/1 for kitchen/family room.
  • Week 12 progress: about 85%.

Homeschool Administration:

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice four times weekly, circumstances dependent: Week 12.

  • 1/4 this week.
  • Week 12 progress: 25%.


Professional/Financial:

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

  • Give 30 minutes/week to Modules One/Two: Weeks 10-12.
  • Week 12 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete 30 minutes of current lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night”: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

New Writing:

Among the Firestars:

Complete Plotting elements: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Complete Rough draft: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Complete Lesson One of Holly Lisle’s Flash Fiction mini-course:  Week 12.

  • Wrote/revised 2/11 story starts.
  • Week 12 progress: about 50%

Chef Bluebeard:

Research changing thrust/ownership of website: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Organize/inventory existing stock: Week 12.

  • Week 12 progress: 0%

Create plan to liquidate/publicize liquidation: Week 12.

  • More brainstorming.
  • 6 bottles sold to a friend who needed gifts.
  • Week 12 progress: about 25%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

The Big Scary Thing:

Spend the time needed to learn and adjust to the reality of Jim’s condition, and to deal with the circumstances as they evolve: Week 12.

  • Adjusting and learning ongoing. Getting in the swing of hospice; I think we’ve met most everyone now.
  • Week 12 progress: about 60%.

Seek and accept help as needed/offered.  Also seek out those willing to help organize, because it’s hard for me to think about that while focusing on Jim, the children, and myself: Week 12.

  • Offers accepted as needed.
  • Week 12 progress: about 60%.

Fitness and Health:

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and give them the types of exercise, stretching, and challenge they need in trying times:  Week 12.

  • Lots of hometending, firewood tending, and resting a knee sore from lots of physical exertion.
  • Week 12 goal: COMPLETED.

Mindful Eating:

Eat three vegetable based meals/snacks; aim for Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Week 12.

  • 3/3 complete; butternut squash ravioli; vegetable lasagna; large salad.
  • Week 12 goal: COMPLETED.

Experiment with Instant Pot veggie-based meals: Week 12.

  • Bought eggs for hard boiling (first simple project) and spinach/kale blend for the veggie experimentation that will follow.
  • Week 12 progress: 10%

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Wobbling Foundations:  ROW80/12 Week Year Week 11 Final:

 It’s Sunday again*, and that means it’s time for a ROW80/12 Week Year Update.

*Well…it WAS Sunday when I originally wrote this. It’s now the waning hours of Wednesday, and I’ve yet to get it finished and posted.

Week 11 was when life took it over, and I wrote no new words…I’m not sure I even wrote in my journal all week. Sometimes life (and impending death) are far more important.

Have you ever set your writing aside to deal with Real Life?

Did it work?

How did you feel?

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Beta Reading:

One chapter of either Spellfire’s Kiss or Stained Blood each week, as possible: Weeks 11-12

  • Week 11 progress: 0% 

Hometending:

Complete three hometending rounds each in bedroom; porch; and study: Weeks 1112.

  • All 3/3 completed – and then some.
  • Study is being repurposed as a game room for the kids, since I really haven’t been using it. The lack of a window is a detriment to me; but will be a benefit to them – and the space is out of the main traffic flow, which our living room is not.
  • Week 11 goal EXCEEDED!

Complete one hometending round bathroom; family room; kitchen; and living room each week. Week 1112.

  • >1/1 for all.
  • Week 11 goal: EXCEEDED!

Homeschool Administration:

Facilitate Jeremiah’s driving practice four times weekly, circumstances dependent: Weeks 11-12.

  • First time driving Jim’s Forester, which will eventually be his, and more snow driving. 4/4.
  • Week 11 goal: COMPLETED!

Professional/Financial:

DIY-MFA Pixels to Platform:

  • Give 30 minutes/week to Modules One/Two: Weeks 10-12.
  • Week 11 progress: 0%

How To Revise Your Novel:

Complete 30 minutes of current lessons, using “On Any Tuesday Night”: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

New Writing:

Among the Firestars:

Complete Plotting elements: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Complete Rough draft: Weeks 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Submissions:

Complete Lesson One of Holly Lisle’s Flash Fiction mini-course:  Week 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Chef Bluebeard:

Research changing thrust/ownership of website: Weeks 10-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Organize/inventory existing stock: Week 11-12.

  • Week 11 progress: 0%

Create plan to liquidate/publicize liquidation: Weeks 11-12.

  • Brainstorming alone, and with Jim.
  • Week 11 progress: about 10% 

Body, Mind, and Soul:

The Big Scary Thing:

Spend the time needed to learn and adjust to the reality of Jim’s condition, and to deal with the circumstances as they evolve: Weeks 11-12.

  • A week of changes that began with Jim in the hospital, and ended with him home and enrolled in hospice care…the final stage of our journey together has commenced.
  • Week 11 goal: COMPLETED.

Seek and accept help as needed/offered.  Also seek out those willing to help organize, because it’s hard for me to think about that while focusing on Jim, the children, and myself: Weeks 11-12.

  • Slowly finding our “new new normal” and pulling things together.
  • Week 11 goal: COMPLETED.

Fitness and Health:

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and give them the types of exercise, stretching, and challenge they need in trying times:  Weeks 1112.

  • Lots of hometending, rest, and firewood hauling.
  • Week 11 goal: COMPLETED. 

Mindful Eating:

Eat three vegetable based meals/snacks; aim for Monday/Wednesday/Friday: Week 11-12.

  • 5/3 complete; butternut squash soup; celery and baby carrots; squash ravioli; teriyaki tempeh x2.
  • Week 11 goal: EXCEEDED!

Experiment with Instant Pot veggie-based meals: Weeks 11-12.

  • Did initial test run with water; more experimentation pending.
  • Week 10 progress: 10%

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