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Live From the Trail:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear EOW4

 

Hi there, ROWers and friends!

Yes, I’m late again. And I’m okay with that, because I’ve discovered(also belatedly) my #oneword for 2018 – and I’ve been busily putting it into practice.

And the word is…

LIVE.

There’ll be more on my #oneword throughout the year.

My week of travel finally ended on Friday, when I picked Lise up from three days at a friend’s home. It feels good to have both kids home again, and no major travel plans on the near horizon.

I haven’t been writing much this week. Most of my energy has been spent on organization, resetting, and administrative matters, with a good dose of Home and Garden TV and other non-writing creative endeavors sprinkled in, and time to reconnect with both kids now that they’ve gotten some much-needed friend time.

I’ve decided not to panic about the paucity of wordcrafting. I feel a need to create a new type of stability in our lives, and to deal with some administrative details that shouldn’t be pushed aside for long.

When February arrives on Thursday, I will kick off two weeks of intensive focus on How to Write Flash Fiction That Doesn’t Suck. I have a story in early development that I want to submit, and I might as well create some others, and learn things, along the way. I also plan to resume my beta reading, and tend to some homeschool administration.
 

But it’s still January, so…time to finally update my progress!

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

 Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

 

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Weeks 4-12.

  • 4/4 – Pennsylvania into New York on rural, state, and interstates; local driving.
  • Progress: 100%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members. Weeks 4-12.

  • Lots of connection with the kids; maintained contact with Jim’s
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 4-12.

  • Facilitated returns from meetups with friends; shopping; Frost Faire; dining at favorite restaurants; discussed plans for updating personal/common spaces.
  • 7/7 for this week to date.
  • Progress: 100%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 4-12.

  • While hometending; making food; and just hanging out together chatting.
  • 7/7 for week so far.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 4-12.

  • Lots more discussion/brainstorming, and planning. Arranged for purchase of a reclining love seat for the kids’ game room.
  • Progress: 100 %

 


Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Moved remaining sauces to staging area; counted 26 cases, of which a few might not be full. It’s a step in the right direction, at last.
  • Progress: 55%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Closed Jim’s business account; changed joint accounts to solo. A sad but necessary process.
  • Still waiting for life insurance paperwork to arrive.
  • Progress: 80%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business. Due Week 6.

  • Progress: 25%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10

  • Progress: 20%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • More discussion on general economics, immediate and extended.
  • Progress: 45%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 4-12.

  • Progress: 20%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 4-12.

  • Read and commented on several #ROW80 midweek Sprints as possible.
  • Progress: 25%.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 412.

  • Still no official list; but ideas are becoming more refined.
  • Progress: 25%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 4-12.

  • Happening organically.
  • Progress: 100%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 412.

  • A bit of informal progress here.
  • Progress: 45%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 4-12.

  • Progress: 45%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 4-12.

  • I’m rocking this!
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Weeks 4-12.

  • Every night this session.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arise. Weeks 4-12.

  • More Home and Garden TV; bought cottage garden magazine; walked friend’s farm; took pictures during lunch out with Lise and while cooking.
  • Progress: 100%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 412.

  • Made a whole faux-rotisserie chicken (and over-steamed broccoli)!
  • Progress: 100%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 4-12.

  • Saved a few more recipes.
  • Progress: 100%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 4-12.

  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 4-12.

  • Regained rhythm post-travel.
  • Progress: 100%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 412.

  • Still doing well at this.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 412.

  • Progress: 30%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 4-12.

  • Lots more quiet moments between travels.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 4-12.

  • I continue to focus on this.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 4-12.

  • Spent time with both kids, just being, as well as tending to their needs.
  • Progress: 100%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

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My very first faux rotisserie Instant Pot chicken! #ICanDoThis!
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On the Trail:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear Midweek 4

Hi there, ROWers and friends!

Thursday is swiftly disappearing, and I still haven’t posted my Wednesday update. I have a good reason– after spending a week reorienting ourselves as a family of three, the kids were both ready to spend some time with friends they don’t get to see as often as they’d like.

For Miah, that meant a trip to Pennsylvania to visit his friend Gabriel, and a bonus of their mutual friend Josh. There were feral chickens, old barns, pet rats, pizza and pumpkin bread, and a LOT of virtual reality gaming. We met Angel, Gabriel’s mom, about halfway on Sunday, and drove alone to their house on Tuesday, so I could visit, too. Miah and I drove home together on Wednesday evening. Since internet was spotty there, I decided to wait.

Lise and I did some provisions shopping for her on Monday, and capped that off with dinner at Friendly’s, a local family fare/ice cream place she’s been wanting to go to for months.  Before I headed for Pennsylvania, I dropped her with her friend Gabrielle. I was supposed to pick her up today, but she extended her visit until tomorrow – a relief for me, since I could use a day off from these adventures!

So how did my goals mesh with travel?

 

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

 Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

 Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

 Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Weeks 412.

  • 1/4 – Interstate distance driving – 114 miles on unfamiliar route.
  • Progress: 25%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members. Weeks 4-12.

  • Checked in w/Miah while driving; with Lise at home.
  • Reached out to Jim’s
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 412.

  • Facilitated meetups with friends; shopping; dining at favorite restaurants; discussed plans for updating personal/common spaces.
  • 3/3 for this week to date.
  • Progress: 100%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 4-12.

  • While hometending, and just hanging out together chatting.
  • 3/3 for week so far.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 4-12.

  • Lots more discussion/brainstorming, and some planning.
  • Purchased bedding for Lise, and collapsible hampers for her and I. Also selected some color swatches for our bedrooms.
  • Progress: 100 %

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Progress: 50%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • After a bit of detouring, I’ve tracked down the elusive life insurance. Paperwork should be here in 7-10 business days.
  • Progress: 75%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business. Due Week 6.

  • Progress: 25%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • More documentation received; gathering for tax time.
  • Progress: 20%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Some discussion on general economics, and whether Lise should have an allowance raise: I thought yes; she said no.
  • Progress: 40%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 4-12.

  • Returned to Writing Flash Fiction That Doesn’t Suck Course: final revision for Story Start 3; rough revision and simmering final revision for Story Start 4/11.
  • Progress: 20%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 4-12.

  • Read and commented on all #ROW80 Sprint Monday.
  • Progress: 20%

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 412.

  • Progress: 25%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 4-12.

  • Progress: 45%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 412.

  • Progress: 35%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 4-12.

  • Progress: 45%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 4-12.

  • I’m getting much better at this!
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Weeks 4-12.

  • Sunday/Monday nights – check. Travel prevented watching Tuesday.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arise. Weeks 4-12.

  • More Home and Garden TV, and lots of Hamilton-singing during my solo driving. Sharing music with Miah and Lise. Travel.
  • Progress: 100%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 412.

  • More ideas from one of my fellow writing group members.
  • More ingredients purchased.
  • Progress: 10%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 4-12.

  • Saved a recipe or two.
  • Progress: 100%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 4-12.

  • Nothing this week.
  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 4-12.

  • I seem to have found my stride here.
  • Progress: 100%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly. Weeks 412.

  • Yes. As much as possible.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 412.

  • Returned to journaling and meditation on Monday; first time in two weeks. Repeated Tuesday before I left for the day’s travels.
  • Progress: 30%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 4-12.

  • Getting better at this.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 412.

  • I continue to focus on this – I don’t seem to have the energy not to.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 4-12.

  • Spent time with both kids, just being, as well as tending to their needs.
  • Progress: 100%.

ROW80

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

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Blazing Our Trail:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear  End of Week 3

 Hello, ROWers and others!

I’m up late, despite needing to be up early, because I want to get this post and the last load of laundry done before I grab a couple of hours’ sleep.

By the time most of you read this, I’ll be on the road with my son, taking him for a visit with out-of-state friends he’s been waiting to see. Later in the week, my daughter also has a sleepover arranged with a local(ish) friend.

We’re finding bits and pieces of normal, and making a crazy-quilt of a trail out of them…it might seem chaotic, but there’s a pattern of sorts emerging…

Which reminds me…I need to activate the new EZ-Passes.

May your Sunday be a full-rich day.

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

 Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • 6/4 – Winter storm/ roundabouts.
  • Progress: 100%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members. Weeks 3-12.

  • Checked in w/kids; connection;
  • Reached out toJim’s sisters.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 3-12.

  • Helped kids make plans and prepare to see far-flung friends, informally.
  • Met others needs/wants as possible; 6/5.
  • Progress: 100%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 3-12.

  • 7/7. This is becoming natural for all of us.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 3-12.

  • This is an ongoing process, with more ideas than time to arrange/enact them. The kids are becoming good sounding boards.
  • Both kids have been quite helpful this week. I think it may have something to do with the fact that I’ve relaxed, and have given us all permission not to try to get everything done each day, but instead to do what feels comfortable and positive.
  • Progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Still considering ways of moving sauces wholesale.
  • Progress: 50%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Received death certificate; began checking account changes; triaged business mail; gathered bills to list later.
  • Tried to initiate insurance policy search online, but company’s form is glitchy.
  • Progress: 70%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business. Due Week 6.

  • Skimmed tax info; located business insurance paperwork.
  • Progress: 25%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • Began gathering info I’ll need at tax time.
  • Progress: 15%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Gathered some bill info.
  • Changed YMCA membership from family to adult-plus-kids. Saves us about $200/year.
  • Progress: 40%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 3-12.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 3-12.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 3-12.

  • Still no official lists yet, but I’ve added gardening and massages to the list.
  • Progress: 25%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Happening organically as we adapt.
  • Progress: 45%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Again, it’s an organic process.
  • Progress: 35%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 3-12.

  • Progress: 45%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 3-12.

  • I’m getting much better at this!
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Due weeks 3-12.

  • Yes, every night. It’s my unofficial “escape” from the realities of transitioning.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Weeks 312.

  • Lots of Home and Garden TV, which I’m currently finding inspirational. Some magazines, which are balm for me in troubled times.
  • Progress: 100%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing cooked in the pot this week.
  • Shopped for ingredients for 3 recipes for the not-distant future, and I have plans to experiment with at least 5 dishes.
  • Progress: 30%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 3-12.

  • Saved one or two from my Facebook groups.
  • Bought local grocery’s quarterly recipe magazine.
  • Progress: 100%.

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing this week.
  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 3-12.

  • Regaining the essence of this – more like a day of focus on my personal space; then one on family things. It’s working well so far.
  • Progress: 85%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 3-12.

  • Yes – getting more in touch with myself and my needs.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 3-12.

  • Still not where I was, but easing closer to it.
  • Progress: 45%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 3-12.

  • Doing better here as I find my footing.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 3-12.

  • I continue to focus on this – I don’t seem to have the energy not to.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 3-12.

  • I’m enjoying time with both kids.
  • Progress: 100%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

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A Gift From the Ocean: #SoCS for 1/20/18

Hello there, and welcome to

Stream of Consciousness Saturday.  

It’s been several weeks since I made it here. From the time my husband was diagnosed with metastatic pancreatic cancer on November 13, life became more and more about his illness and impending death, and all the millions of details that needed tending.

I’d like to say we had everything done when he died on January 12 – but I would be lying. In many ways, I will be digging us out and flying by the seat of my pants for quite some time to come, it seems.

But it’s been more than a week since Jim’s death, and I do have a better handle on where we are and what comes next, at least in the short term.  I’ve found that returning to some of my former routines helps, and so here I am, in the later part of Saturday, to share my first #SoCS post of a trying new year.  This week’s prompt was to use a word that begins with the letters “oc” – with bonus points for starting and ending with appropriate words.

As always, the standard disclaimer applies. I don’t own the characters in my fanfiction, and I earn no money for these stories. Simply a gift of love…

A Gift From the Ocean

“Oc -a -tee- oh?” Trip wiped away the delighted smile; his companion had been touchy just lately, and he’d come here to try to get on her good side…

Or into her bed, if she’d even consider that.

Probably wasn’t very logical.

T’Pol made some tiny shift in the muscles of her face, and let out her breath a hair too fast and forcefully. Sure signs of Vulcan impatience; he’d let himself get distracted by her.

Again.

“Ocotillo,” he told her, making his voice distinct and a touch slower than normal, without making any comment at all about the way she’d butchered the word. “It’s got other names – Flaming Sword, for one. I kind of like that, but I’ll bet you’d rather call it candlewood.”

“That nomenclature is illogical.” But she was stroking one of the flowers very gently, so maybe there was room in there somewhere for human fancies. She popped the bubble with her next words, though. “What is its genus species identification?”

“Fouquieria splendens.” He had a feeling that he’d made as big a mess of the Latin as she had the Spanish. But T’Pol had better manners than to point it out. She simply nodded, and Trip settled in on her bench, where he could watch the rare show of T’Pol enjoying the plant – as a scientist and a woman, at the same time.

He smiled when she set the pot down on her little meditation table. “Thank you,” she said simply.

“I thought you might like it. It’s one of your colors, after all, and it’s a desert plant, after all.” He didn’t mention that it was also both lovely and prickly, kind of like a Vulcan scientist. He wasn’t sure how she would take that.

“Take off your shirt. You arrived late, and nearly three minutes has been wasted in this discussion.”

He could be disappointed in how short-lived her interest was, but these neuropressure sessions with her were the high point of his day. She warmed her hands, and he stripped out of his shirt, shivering just a bit at the spicy-smoky scent in the air and the thought of her amazing fingers on his bare skin…

Was it just his imagination that she looked forward to it, too? That her fingers trembled just the tiniest bit when she touched him? She had started letting him try out what she showed him on her, and, when he did, he thought her body quivered, too, low and deep inside her.

Did all that add up to attraction? Or desire?

He just didn’t know.

But, as T’Pol’s fingers played a symphony with his nerves, and Trip relaxed more and more into the touch, and her quiet candlelit nest, he noticed that she kept pausing to look over at the little potted ocotillo plant, and her touch would feather across his skin for a second, before she settled back into the familiar pressure.

Trip Tucker was an engineer. He didn’t know yet what all that meant, but he knew it wasn’t just business, and he was willing to bet it meant that she liked the gift he’d brought her – the same way she’d liked the peaches he brought her last week. But was it the gifts – or the person bringing them? Did he mean anything to her, besides being a colleague in need of her assistance?

Well, he was an engineer, and he could find out. She liked the taste of peaches; maybe they reminded her of Vulcan fruit. She liked the octotillo, but that was a desert plant.

Next time, he was going to bring her something she couldn’t mistake for being from home. He was going to bring her a gift from the ocean.

Will Trip bring T’Pol a gift from the ocean?

If he does, how will she react?

Any guesses?

Stream of Consciousness Saturday is hosted by Linda G. Hill over at Life in Progress. Stop by and see this week’s entries, and maybe even add your own.

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We Begin Again:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear Midweek 3

It’s been five days since my husband died. 

The kids and I are emerging from the limbo-of-sorts that Jim’s illness imposed upon our lives for the last two months, and especially for the last 3 weeks of his life. I’m taking stock, figuring out what needs to be done first – administratively and practically, but also emotionally and mentally.

I’m cleaning and repurposing. I need to make what was our bedroom my bedroom – it’s impossible to move forward if I keep things as they were, and Jim left a considerable amount of clutter and chaos behind that I’m gradually excavating. I’m making things a bit more female-oriented, considerably bluer, and a lot cleaner. It’s not even close to “finished,” whatever that means, but it is coming along.

I’m also decluttering the common rooms of our home. As I progress, I’m also thinking of how they could be improved. Some changes Jim and I discussed, but others are new, and that feels…strange. Like I should ask his permission, or at least his blessing, just like I would have if he was alive. Not considering his preferences is one in a long string of adjustments I’m going to need to make in the future.

It’s been five days…and I’m adjusting.

Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

Green:  In Progress.

Black: Still Waiting.

Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November. Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly. Due Weeks 3-12.

  • 3/4 times – both routine and unfamiliar routes; good weather and snow.
  • Progress: 75%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed.  Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members. Weeks 3-12.

  • Checked in with both kids; meeting needs for connection; shopped together.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs. Weeks 3-12.

  • Spent time helping all, informally. 2/5.
  • Progress: 30%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily. Weeks 3-12.

  • This is becoming natural for all of us.
  • Progress: 100%.

Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 3-12.

  • This is an ongoing process.
  • Progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Still considering ways of moving sauces wholesale.
  • Progress: 50%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Spoke to credit union regarding various matters. Triage ongoing.
  • Progress: 45%

Pay Jim’s back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business at the appropriate time: Due Week 6.

  • Looked into closing Jim’s business accounts.
  • Progress: 20%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • Progress: 10%.

Create a base family budget for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Experimented with “winging” the grocery shopping. The attempt failed; we decided we need a list.
  • Progress: 25%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 3-12.

  • Progress: 10%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 3-12.

  • Not the most connected beginning to the week; I felt the need to focus on other, more immediate, matters.
  • Progress: 40%.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 3-12.

  • No official lists yet, but ideas are growing and taking shape.
  • Progress: 20%

Ask both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Happening organically as we adapt.
  • Progress: 45%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Again, it’s an organic process.
  • Progress: 35%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 3-12.

  • My NNWM ML had a great idea on using Wunderlist to help me stay better organized.
  • Progress: 45%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 3-12.

  • We’ve got a list of standard suggestions, and a few more specific ones. We’ve been offering them when asked.
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Due weeks 3-12.

  • Yes, every night so far this week. It’s become my unofficial “escape” from the realities of transitioning.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Weeks 312.

  • Some of all marked.
  • Progress: 80%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing this week.
  • Progress: 0%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 3-12.

  • Saved one or two from my Facebook groups.
  • Progress: 100%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Weeks 3-12.

  • Nothing this week.
  • Progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 3-12.

  • Regaining the essence of this – more like a day of focus on my personal space; then one on family things. It’s a beginning.
  • Progress: 60%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 3-12.

  • Yes – getting more in touch with myself and my needs.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 3-12.

  • Still not really happening.
  • Progress: 40%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 3-12.

  • Doing better here as I find my footing in this new post-marriage reality.
  • Progress: 100%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 3-12.

  • I continue to focus on this – I don’t seem to have the energy not to.
  • Progress: 100%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 3-12.

  • I’m enjoying time with both kids. Want more connection with Jim’s sisters.
  • Progress: 75%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!
ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

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Across the Threshold:  #ROW80 /#12WeekYear EOW2

It’s been a while since I’ve posted an update – about 10 days, as a matter of fact.

A lot has changed. Rather than living with my husband’s terminal cancer diagnosis, I’m now living in the aftermath of his death with our children, ages 13.5 and 16. There’s been  muddling, tears, planning, time with his sisters who came cross-country to spend his last days with us, laughter, moments of pain and grace.

We’ve crossed the threshold of waiting, and are taking this week, the three of us, just to gather ourselves. Next week, we begin finding our way forward along a path that’s still indistinct, but growing clearer as we blaze our own trails.

That’s what the rest of the round will be about, for me…blazing trails, building cairns to mark the new paths, and forging on.

A candid couple moment at the playground, September 2013.
  • Blue with Overstrike:  Goal Completed.
  • Green:  In Progress.
  • Black: Still Waiting.
  • Black with Overstrike: 86ed.

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November: Due Week 2.

  • Progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly: Weeks 112.

  • 3/8.
  • Progress: 40%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed: Due Week 1.

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members: Weeks 112.

  • Checked in with everyone. Kids seeking bedroom changes and greater cleanliness. Jim wants to be comfortable, and eat or drink things he enjoys.
  • Progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs: Weeks 112.

  • Spent time helping all; intensified in Week Two. 7/
  • Progress: 70%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily: Weeks 112.

  • Week One was a bit shaky, but Jim’s condition worsened over the weekend, and the kids and I spent considerable time together in those spaces.
  • Progress: 90%.

Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 1-12.

  • Gathering, considering, and, as much as possible, enacting (see above).
  • Progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Moved sauces off the family room table; considering ways of moving them wholesale.
  • Progress: 40%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates: Due Week 4.

  • Gathered bills, statements, and info; began triaging.
  • Progress: 35%

Assist Jim in paying back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business at the appropriate time: Due Week 6.

  • This is now my responsibility alone; have info but haven’t read yet.
  • Progress: 15%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • I’ve decided to let someone else unravel this complicated year.
  • Progress: 10%.

Create a base family budget – for now, and for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • More brainstorming and conversation.
  • Progress: 20%

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Weeks 1-12.

  • Revision 1/2 for story start 3/11; drafted story start 4/11.
  • Progress: 10%.

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Weeks 112.

  • A little blog reading/commenting/ sprinting. Wrote a blog hop post, but didn’t manage to post it.
  • Week One progress: 40%.

Being:

 Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Weeks 1-12.

  • No official lists yet, but ideas I have been pursuing as offers are made.
  • Week Two progress: 15%

Ask each family member both kids for ideas at least weekly. Weeks 112.

  • Happening organically as we adapt.
  • Progress: 40%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Weeks 1-12.

  • Again, it’s an organic process.
  • Progress: 25%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Weeks 112.

  • Spoke with hospice social worker regarding several areas of concern.
  • Progress: 35%

When someone offers general assistance, be ready with ideas. Weeks 1-12.

  • We’ve come up with standard suggestions, and a few more specific ones, and have been offering them when asked.
  • Progress: 100%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Missed Friday, the night Jim died, for obvious reasons.
  • Progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Weeks 1-12.

  • Some of all marked.
  • Progress: 75%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Weeks 1-12.

  • More hard-boiled eggs; butternut squash/sweet potato soup; and steel-cut oats.
  • Progress: 100%.

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Weeks 1-12.

  • Saved several from my Facebook group; joined another.
  • Progress: 100%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly. Due Week 3.

  • Made Jim a mango/apple cider smoothie.
  • Progress: 50%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Weeks 1-12.

  • Did well until Jim became bedbound and semi-lucid, and the uncertainty led to many short bursts of cleaning every day.
  • Progress: 55%.

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly.  Weeks 1-12.

  • Did better with this one.
  • Progress: 100%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Weeks 1-12.

  • This has fallen by the wayside for the moment.
  • Progress: 40%.

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Weeks 1-12.

  • Some; not as much as I’d like.
  • Progress: 30%.

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Weeks 1-12.

  • Life forced its hand on this one late in Week One.
  • Progress: 90%.

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Weeks 112.

  • I had little choice, here – exhaustion and need prevailed.
  • Progress: 85%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

I’m closing today with a favorite song from my childhood. I’ve been thinking of it quite a lot lately…

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And We’ve Begun:  #ROW80/#12WeekYear /Midweek Update 1

 

And…we’re off and running on another Round of Words in 80 Days! It’s time for our first midweek update.

I’m still adjusting to my new goals and focus, but they feel right for the transitional place my life is in, and I did make some progress, even if not so much in the arena of writing…

How are you doing with your aspirations in this new year?

My Round One/ 12 Week Year Two Goals

  • Blue with Overstrike: Goal Completed.

  • Green:  In Progress.

  • Black: Still Waiting.

 

Relationships, Family, and Home:

Doing:

Complete lists of homeschool activities/ update attendance for November: Due Week 2.

  • Week One progress: 0%.

Facilitate Miah’s driving practice; four times weekly: Due Weeks 1-12.

  • 1/4 times this week – errand run.
  • Week One progress: 25%.

Move bedroom furniture to better accommodate nurse visits; deep clean as I go; ask for help from kids as needed:  Due Week 1.

  • Moved all the essentials and deep cleaned with help from Miah.
  • Organized/cleaned/reset as I went.
  • Week One goal COMPLETED!

Use one-on-one time to touch base with all family members: Weeks 112.

  • Checked in with everyone. Mostly what’s needed are groceries, comfortable temperatures, and, for the kids, time with friends.
  • Week One progress: 100%

Set aside a few minutes five days weekly to arrange facilitation of needs: Weeks 1-12.

  • Not formally, but did consider this on Monday; 1/5.
  • Week One progress: 15%.

Being:

Focus on at least ten minutes with some combination of family members in common spaces daily: Weeks 1-12.

  • Honestly, I’ve been grouchy a lot more than I wanted to be – but spent some time with Jim, Miah, and Lise in these spaces.
  • Week One progress: 65%.

Gather and consider ideas on how to make our home a sweeter place. Weeks 1-12.

  • Doing well with this one. Gathering, considering, and, as much as possible, enacting (see above).
  • Week One progress: 100%

Professional/Financial:

Doing:

Inventory sauces; get count on what/how many labels needed: Due Week 3.

  • Have a plan to get sauces off the family room table when the tree comes down in a few days. It’s a start.
  • Week One progress: 10%

Go through checking account and insurance policy info; make list of monthly/quarterly bills and due dates:  Due Week 4.

  • The process has begun with fuel and electric bills, and searching for insurance info Jim put “somewhere.”
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Assist Jim in paying back sales taxes; find out how to dissolve business at the appropriate time: Due Week 6.

  • A bit of talk here; no real action yet.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Do (or delegate) our taxes: Due Week 10.

  • See above.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Create a base family budget – for now, and for the kids and I: Due Week 12.

  • Some internal brainstorming and conversation.
  • Week One progress: 5%.

Focus on learning via the courses I already have in progress: Due Weeks 1-12.

  • Drafted story start 3/11.
  • Week One progress: 5%

Work on beta projects I’ve agreed to as opportunity arises. Due Weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%.

Keep in touch with other writers –  reading blogs; commenting; participating in sprints and blog hops as I am able: Due Weeks 112.

  • Some reading/commenting/ attempting sprints.
  • Week One progress: 20%.

Being:

Make lists of things we could use help with, as we think of them. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Ask each family member for ideas at least weekly. Due weeks 112.

  • Talked with Jim; 1/
  • Week One progress: 33%

Pair lists with those willing to help at least weekly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Chatted w/ writing group friends; a general plan is emerging.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Seek out someone(s) with good organizational skills who can coordinate as/when needed. Due weeks 1-12.

  • See above.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Be ready with ideas when general assistance is offered.  Due weeks 1-12.

  • This doesn’t come naturally to me, but I am learning.
  • Week One progress: 15%

Body, Mind, and Soul:

Doing:

Watch Star Trek: Enterprise whenever possible; join in Twitter live chat at #AllStarTrek.  Due weeks 1-12.

  • I haven’t been quite as chatty, and I’ve been late some, but I have made all chats during
  • Week One progress: 100%

Resume taking pictures, beautifying our home, drawing, coloring, singing, and other activities that I enjoy, as opportunities arises. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Some of all marked.
  • Week One progress: 50%

Experiment with Instant Pot weekly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Keep eyes open for likely recipes. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Saved a couple I found while browsing my Facebook group.
  • Week One progress: 10%

Use Ninja for food prep once weekly . Due Week 3.

  • Week One progress: 0%

Alternate days of restful focus with more active days. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Sunday and Tuesday were active; Mnday was more restful.
  • Week One progress: 100%

Listen to my body, mind, and soul, and follow their leads to adjust accordingly. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Fell down on this, but began to reset on it later in the day Tuesday.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Being:

Follow a morning routine when possible. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Journaled Monday and Tuesday. Meditated Monday.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Use quiet moments as they present themselves. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Some; not as much as I’d like.
  • Week One progress: 20%

Make a practice of being present- right here, right now. Due weeks 1-12.

  • Fell down some on this; but managed to pick myself up again.
  • Week One progress: 30%

Prioritize time and connection with my beloveds over busy-ness. Due weeks 1-12.

  • This is a tricky one when life and our home are chaotic – but I did manage it more often than not, in several ways.
  • Week One progress: 60%

ROW80 –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have A Life!

ROW Along, or Cheer Us On!

We’re On Facebook, Too!

Something for me…reclaiming a cluttered shelf. Books, Stones form various places, and my great-grandma Edmunds’ ceramic swan planter.