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Freedom from “F’s”: #atozchallenge for April 7, 2017

Slices of An Unschooling Life Theme Reveal Post

Today’s Poetry Type:



Failure is a Possibility

I’ve never tried to write this way

This is a brand new poem today

It’s possible that I will fail

As clumsy rhymes stumble and flail success away


What happens if I don’t succeed?

Is winning such a burning need?

Why must we always make the grade?

Let our creativity fade like shriveled seed?


Don’t rate ideas with a letter

Where B is good, A is better

And to get an F brings much woe

When we don’t risk, we never know or unfetter!

 Another kind of “f” word: Thursday afternoon flying at a local arm, rather than being in a classroom.

One of the most notable differences between our unschooling life and a more traditional school environment is this:

We don’t grade our children, and they aren’t in competition with others to “get good grades”  and prove themselves better than the others – in other words, the striving to be at “the head of the class.”

You might be wondering how we know they’re learning, if we don’t grade them. Are they falling behind? Do they know what they’re “supposed to” at their ages?

We value learning as it naturally occurs in a rich and varied environment. Instead of a classful of students, and a teacher who needs to let parents know how well those students are doing, how they’re “measuring up” with their peers, there’s just….a family.

                                     Love Yourself by Annalise, age 9.
                                     Love Yourself by Annalise, age 9.

We don’t have a class full or a teacher here. We have two parents, and two children. We live together in one small house; we enjoy each other, talk with each other, play games and watch shows, shop and go to museums and plays and parties together.

I don’t need grades to tell me that they’re learning, growing, becoming more sophisticated and capable. It’s evident in their projects, passions, conversation, play…it’s everywhere, readily seen.

With no fear of getting “a bad grade” or “an F,” they’re far more open to learning and innovating,  to seeking out more information,  for taking chances and indulging their inquisitiveness.  

More, they haven’t absorbed an “us vs. them” mentality; they’re far more likely to collaborate than compete. They tend more toward the concept of ubuntu), where everyone benefits.

I feel like that’s a better thing, here in our family, and in the wider world, too – and a big part of that is not demanding that our kids “make the grade.”

Are grades important to you?
Can you think of other ways to assess learning?

Feeling ready for more non-failing F posts? Well, by now, you probably know what to do – take the entrance ramp onto the  Blogging From A-Z April Challenge Freeway – click this link, or the icon below.

And remember to find us again tomorrow, when we will “mind the gap” – or maybe not!

           Exploring Architectural Balance at the New York State Museum.
           Exploring Architectural Balance at the New York State Museum.


I am myself. I own my life, and live with three other people who own theirs. My intention is to do only those things that bring me joy, and to give myself wholly to those things I do. Writing has been my passion throughout my life, and this will become the home for my writing life...because it brings me great joy!

2 thoughts on “Freedom from “F’s”: #atozchallenge for April 7, 2017

  1. Love the post, and the explanation of ‘unschooling’. I write a tech-in-ed blog ( I’d love if you’d write a post for it about unschooling. Only if you’re interested! I know posts can take quite a bit of time. Check out the blog first and see if it fits your interest.

    1. Hi, Jacqui!
      I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Unschooling looks different for every family, because each family has its own priorities and circumstances. We tend toward the creative side of things here, because we’re all creatives by nature.
      Is there a particular time frame for writing a post for your blog? I’m very busy creatively until July, and we’re in the midst of a laptop upgrade that involved me getting a new one (since I do the most with mine), my husband getting my 3 year old model because he wants a touch-screen,and my daughter getting his netbook because she wants to read, surf the net, and watch/make videos, and she doesn’t want a touch screen.
      So things are pretty chaotic as I move through the process of getting the things people need and want where they want them – while also writing a novel!
      I might be a bit crazy…but I’ll drop by and check your blog out soon!

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