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Present With Love: February 14, 2016

Today is Valentine’s Day. Around the US, many people will be scrambling to buy the right card, hoping they made the right dinner reservations, gasping at the cost of long-stemmed roses, and hoping the person they love will say yes – between the covers and behind closed doors, or to a bit of crystallized carbon set in precious metal and offered on on knee, perhaps.

Not that I’m knocking any of that – but, to me, there’s something hollow in the compulsion to declare love on February 14, if you aren’t visibly living it the rest of the time.

Because love, as I tell my children, is a verb. Not just three little words that can be said without thought, meaning, or even feeling. Love is the act of acceptance, cherishing, nurturing, supporting. Of making ourselves or someone else important, not in words or gifts, but in deeds – in the setting aside of other things to give them primacy.

It’s about seeing and taking our beloveds, not as we would have them, but as they are. Embracing them, not with words or flowers, but with ourselves.

So, today, while my Accomplice the chef cooks Valentines’ dinners for other sweethearts, I’ll be here, at home, literally keeping the home fires burning on a day where windchills are expected to fall below -40 degrees Fahrenheit.

Whatever today brings you, may you warmed by love!



  • The IDIC Romance: Complete plot/pinch points for 25 stories. 4/25 in progress. (D).


  • The IDIC Romance: Reread “Slow Jazz Awakening” hard copy and notate; adapt revision plan as needed; write revised draft – 16 short scenes. Draft 2.5 rewrite of Scene 9/16 in progress.

Blogging/Social Media:

  • Revise, post, and initiate new blogging schedule; keep all posts current. All posts on time. Nearly prepared to announce new schedule.

  • Answer blog comments and make visits, at least thrice weekly. I may not get to them all; but I will get to some. 3/3 for this inaugural week.

  • ROW80: Keep visits and updates current; draft, revise, and submit Round One Sponsor Post before January 10. Back on track here.

  • Change one thing weekly in my blog layout. Made changes to which pages display; gave pages a thorough weeding.

  • Maintain email at under 99 messages; clear Archives folder. Emptied email inbox. Some progress on Archives (889 messages there; it’ll take a while to read and weed through them all, I’m doing them a few at a time).


  • Homeschool Administration: Complete all pending paperwork. Draft IHIPs and attend to district’s Peer Review issue;create 2015-2016 Flickr portfolios for both kids, and begin adding to them. Sciences section complete; Social Studies: Patriotism and Citizenship; U.S. History; and U.S. Government; and Economics.
  • Continue decluttering/beautification projects; in home and/or yard, five days weekly. Continue making improvements to our home and our quality of life. General maintenance; organization; decluttering. 6/5.
  • Go through all online subscriptions; cancel those we no longer need; at least one each week.


  • Continue planning/ attending outings (personal and family) as desired. Write-in for me. Day out with Jeremiah. Tentative plans to visit NJ friends in April.

  • NNWM local group: Attend write-ins regularly, and check in on the Facebook group as inspired. Read and critique both projects I’ve been hanging onto; submit and critique weekly for our small crit group, which is brand-new this year! Attended write-in; submitted next installment of “Slow Jazz”for this week‘s submission. Reading critique project #1: p.97/222.
  • Complete Stained Snow beta read.

  • My beloveds: One on one time with each, doing something of value to us both, each week. Yes. Converation, play, documentaries.
  • Complete 6 pending book reviews.


  • Write in Abundance, Intentions, and #onegoodcup journals seven times each week. Meditate seven times weekly, including one eating meditation. Explore one new meditative practice. Journaling and meditation: 7/7. Bought a meditation coloring book and used it.

  • Tai chi practice: One class and one at-home practice each week. Actually went back to class, and LOVED it!

  • Focus on sprints of activity daily (hometending, dancing, tai chi, walking, whatever), and more strenuous activities I enjoy, like swimming and hiking twice monthly. Write twice-monthly health-centered blog posts. Good on the daily moving sprints: walks and hometending. Strenuous activity: 2/2 carrying firewood; tai chi. One health blogpost, which you can read here. 1 /2.

Leaps of Faith:

  • Fan fiction stuff: Polish “Mission: Accomplished”, and “Scavenger Hunt”, and offer at Triaxian Silk.

  • Read through The Writer’s Coloring Book by Rachel Funk Heller in preparation for using it to plot and draft my April CampNaNo Kifo Island project. Complete. New goal: Purchase all needed supplies before I finish this month’s Foul Deeds Will Rise chapters, so that I can begin planning as soon as I finish.

  • Begin exploring for possible submissions there. New goal.

Kait Nolan’s ROW80  –

The Writing Challenge That Knows You Have a Life!

See other participants’ goals updates here!



I am myself. I own my life, and live with three other people who own theirs. My intention is to do only those things that bring me joy, and to give myself wholly to those things I do. Writing has been my passion throughout my life, and this will become the home for my writing life...because it brings me great joy!

6 thoughts on “Present With Love: February 14, 2016

  1. I am so with you on Valentine’s Day – in fact, my husband and I don’t even celebrate it! What you do the rest of the year matters more. We’ve been married for 22 years next month, so I guess we’re doing something right. 🙂

    Great job on those goals and keep up the good work… and stay warm!

    1. “! What you do the rest of the year matters more.”


      Also, I met my Accomplice on February 20. I remember that because it also happens to be his birthday. Four years ago, we spent that day in the hospital, because he’d had a life-threatening motorcycle accident the night before, on his way home from work for his vacation.

      Needless to say, that’s a much more significant date for us, especially since chefs tend to be very busy on Valentine’s Day.

      We’ll celebrate nineteen years this summer. It’s not always easy, and there’ve been some times we’ve both thought we’d rather give up, but, overwhelmingly, he’s my besr friend, my partner, my lover – my Accomplice. =)

      I woke up to a fire. And the arctic blast has eased up. Tomorrow is expected to be rainy and in the 50s. And my Accomplice is on vacation again, which makes life seem relaxed and wide-open.

  2. I know what you mean. Hubby and I usually go out to eat, but that’s the extent of our celebrating. After 10 years together, it’s not such a big deal, you know?

    Nice work on everything this week!

    Sent from my iPhone


    1. Today is going to be just a peaceful beginning to his vacation, and we’re letting it flow. With Presidents’ Day, and snow that’s expected to turn to sleet and freezing rain later, we all plan to just stay in and let the day be what it will. =)

  3. We had a pretty low key valentine’s day here. Went out for breakfast in the morning then I got some blogging and reading done while husband slept since he’d been up all night plowing. Didn’t exchange gifts or anything, which I don’t mind.

    Looks like a lot of blue and green in that list!

    1. We’re just enjoying the beginning of vacation time. He has every Monday and Tuesday off, so the actual vacation is a couple of days away, but there’s something special about a weekend that doesn’t end in two days.

      It’s been a good week for progress, and I expect the next couple of weeks to bring even more!

      Hope your husband got some rest. It’s snowing here, now, but is expected to be fifty degrees and raining tomorrow. It is nice to be out of the deep freeze and into almost double-digits!

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